I’m hearing the same dialogue all around me and I just wanted to address each statement separately. I’m going to start by reminding everyone that we were not put on this earth to work hard to pay bills. The majority of us spend 90% of our time doing stuff we don’t like or could give 2 f@#ks about. But damn do we have time to complain… We have hours on hours to tell each other how unhappy or ridiculously busy or broke we are. We have hours to take on and indulge in other peoples business and drama but when it comes to changing and bettering our situation its “I’m stuck, I’m unhappy, My relationship is failing, Myself business is a mess, I have no time for me, I hate my job, I don’t have a choice, It’s just the way it is.” My responses are below:
We are only held captive by our ideas and thoughts. Change your thinking, change your situation. There is always a different way to look at things you must be willing to be open minded.
People believe that happiness is a destination…. “I’ll be happy when this happens or when I get this or there”. Why can’t we aim to be happy along the way? Be happy in the now and if you are not, start making small changes to everyday to inject doses of joy. Happiness is a personal thing. It is about giving to yourself time, moments, memories, freedoms and feelings. Because what if we never get to that destination happy? Are we doomed to spend a life of misery then die? I’m sure it wasn’t intended that way.
“My relationship is failing”
Ask yourself why it’s failing? There a few things that deteriorate a relationship: lack of support, lack of trust, lack of loyalty, lack of honesty, lack of communication, lack of consideration and acknowledgement. Notice I did not mention love. You can love someone to bits but it won’t solely hold a relationship together. When you neglect your relationship – just like any other parts of your life…it starts to slip away. A good place to start to fix things is to communicate with your partner and admit to the neglect, and willingness to put energy into repair. Happiness starts at home.
“My business is a mess”
No business starts out as a mess but plenty end there. Just like a relationship, it’s neglect that will make a business deteriorate. Business owners fall into the trap of putting all their energy in the things that generate income right now and forget to maintain the things that will ensure the longevity of the business. The organisation and planning and research aspect of a business should never cease. Maintain a clean and organised back-end, and implement an accurate reporting tool so that you can make better decisions about the direction that your business is going. Keep up to date with your market and be willing to be flexible so that you can evolve and adapt appropriately. Also, love what you do.
“I have no time for me”
You are the ruler of your time. You are the ruler of your time. You are the ruler of your time… If you don’t have time for you then you are giving too much time out. Usually its going out to your job, other people, and making money. Just like you allocate time for your job, allocate time for you. Put it in your calendar like an appointment. If your job or life doesn’t allow it, change your job or life — it’s NOT acceptable to have no time for yourself.
“I hate my job”
Leave. If you hate your job you are probably a bad worker anyway. Everyone has different strengths and weaknesses and skills and talents. Find yours and find a job that uses them, and if you can’t find one, create one.
“I don’t have a choice”
You always have a choice. The options may not be great but they are always there. Choose and follow through. Pick a side, don’t fence sit. And back yourself – how do you expect others to if you don’t?
“Its just the way it is here”
This is the biggest cop out I ever hear. Its you saying, I’m unwilling to change and I accept my unhappiness because I’m lazy or scared. No one is ever “ready” to do anything.
MAKE A MOVE. EVEN A SMALL ONE….IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION…ACROSS THE GLOBE IF THATS WHERE YOUR HEART LEADS YOU. Nothing changes whilst you stay in the same spot physically and mentally and emotionally, so try something new.
This year I moved my family (me, my husband, our to kids and my mother) to Mauritius. It was a tough move, but I put the idea in my head that I could work from anywhere in the world. And now I’m proving myself right. Current situation: