We forget sometimes how important it is to upkeep our friendships and relationships with others. Life can be overwhelmingly busy and we can often get too wrapped up in work, earning money, problem solving and passion projects. It can be easy to forget friends and loved ones who are ‘low maintenance’ and ‘understanding of our busy schedules’. But it shouldn’t be the norm.
Never having time for your friends and family is a no go. Having extended periods of time without up-keep on these relationships makes for your being a very lonely person in the end. And it doesn’t matter how ‘cool with it’ you think your friend or partner is.
At some point you are showing them where you have placed them in your life, on a ladder of priority. If your family sits down the ladder at 100th or even 50th place on that priority scale, way behind work, stress, bills, mortgage, networking associates and leads, then how can you argue that you work so hard to provide for them and make them happy?
Happiness is not measured by the amount in your bank account or the amount of possessions and assets you own. You can still be happy when you have nothing. But when you have no-one, ‘Happy’ gets significantly more difficult.
Mostly, what your real family and friends desire to have is your attention, your company and your presence, both physical and emotional. Sometimes we must stop thinking about ourselves being ATMs and Workhorses enough to understand the more important things in life.
It doesn’t take much time to send a text, email, message, to make a phone call even. You may think that you have zero time. But you always have time because simply put, what could possibly be more important? What is your life without them? If you are really struggling to keep up with relationship maintenance schedule it. Schedule it like you do your lunch, or a meeting. Put it in the calendar : 6-7pm cuddles with kids, 3-4pm returning social messages, 130-2pm phone call to mum 8-10pm No screen time (turn off phones, Ipads etc and spend time with the people around you). Treat it like any other work task of the day, because it is just as important.
Balancing career, family, friends and personal development isn’t an easy thing to do. But it’s not impossible if you believe in the importance of it. Remember that if you dedicate all your time to success & riches, you might end up there…alone. Just a little effort here and there will definitely go along way with you loved ones, and ensure they still feel loved 🙂