What’s Your Side Hustle?

One of the key points to respecting and honoring our special talents as musicians is to not sell ourselves short or undervalue our gifts.

But it’s sometimes hard to do this when you have bills to pay.
I mean, when you think about it, why would we want to work a day job for $20-30 per hour when we can make on average $300-$500+ per gig?
Once we start getting paid for gigs, we tend to struggle to be able to accept being paid so little per hour elsewhere.

So we take as many gigs as possible, “Ho-ing” out our talents 5-6 nights a week to rely on this for our living expenses. The money’s good, but after a while, performing feels like work (because in this instance it is) and the body suffers.

We get tired, we burn out, and when music is the sole source of income that we rely on to live, we often over do it, lose motivation and set aside our passion projects, like originals, to pursue other music avenues and gigs that pay more now.

I’m not saying that it doesn’t work for everyone –we have some amazingly successful musicians right here in our community. But as it gets increasingly difficult to make money in the industry, some of us fall into the trap that the gig scene and cover band life can be.

DONT TAKE YOUR PASSION AND ALLOW IT TO IMPRISON YOU BY MAKING IT THE ONLY WAY THAT YOU CAN EARN MONEY TO LIVE.

You may not be able to take a break and in the long run it will lead to burn out.

Hold space for passion in your art first and foremost.
Make music and perform because it feels good first, and allow the money to be a bonus.
Put yourself in a position where you can PICK and CHOOSE your gigs.

ENTER SIDE HUSTLE

*** I’m talking about the kind that doesn’t require you to use or pick up your instrument.

Your side hustle should be something that allows you to make enough income to cover your expenses,so that you can pick and choose your music projects and gigs, or TAKE A BREAK when you need to.

Your side hustle SUPPORTS your creativity and allows you to value your gift more and say NO when the conditions are not right for you.
Your side hustle DOES NOT take up all of your time or take you away from your art. (Otherwise it’s not “side”)

And if your side hustle pays more than what you make per hour in music and gigs, you’ve done well. 👏👏👏

My business teaches people how to find the right side hustle for them.

What’s your side hustle??

And if you don’t have one, or are unhappy with what you’ve currently got going, click below to register for a free webinar and allow me help you create something amazing for yourself

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Business beyond babies

HOW I GOT MY GROOVE BACK and started making $500+ commission per sale at home during nap time and between feeding times.

Choosing to be a mum shouldn’t end your career. But having kids and staying home to raise them can be overwhelming at first. But as the strong women we are, we adapt and change and find a way to manage the busy schedules, the sleepless nights, the nappies, the feeds, the school lunches, the tantrums and the demand for extra attention.

My kids are the best thing that ever happened to me. But they are not the ONLY good things that I have created. I love working, I love feeling financially independent, I love achieving goals, I love completing and closing projects and most of all I love talking…TO ADULTS.

When I had my first baby Chance (now 5), I cut back a lot of my hours to be the amazing mum everyone told me that I would be. I loved my baby in a way I have never felt before and I just wanted to be this super mum that I had seen my friends become over the years. But being a full time mum is hard. Not just physically, but it is taxing mentally and emotionally too. I remember someone saying to you that when you have a baby, that baby will become your entire life and you won’t want to do anything else but look after it…. I was like REALLY?? ANYTHING ELSE??

I worked in events, I performed and coached, I managed talent, I produced shows and I traveled the world….AND THEN I DIDN’T. I loved my job. I wanted to be a mum. But I loved my job, you know.. I didn’t want to choose between the two. The struggle was real. What I mean by the struggle was the guilt. At 3 months old, I left my baby to go on tour again, it wasn’t long, but I still felt like an “abandon-er”, failing to live up to the expectations of motherhood place on my by society.

You see, when we first become mums, we have this idea that everything comes naturally and effortlessly, because that is what we are told. And so when you struggle to do things like, settle, breast feed, or keep up with the general things that you would normally do in life (laundry, dishes, household admin, grooming) you sometimes just feel like a failure.

The one thing that made that feeling of under-achievement go away was going back to work. Going back and feeling like I WAS GOOD at something again. When I felt like a bad mum, I at least could be a damn good performer, producer and manager.

I overcame those new mummy blues after talking to enough mums to realise we pretty much all go through the same thing. But what I did not overcome was the need to be MORE that Just MUM.

And that is totally OK. Motherhood is rewarding and brings beautiful purpose in satisfaction in one’s life. And it is enough for some women. BUT IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE ALL THAT WE ARE. And it most certainly doesn’t have to be the only thing that DEFINES us. We can be a mum AND…..well, whatever the F you like.

The trick is setting yourself up to get what you need out of a career/business life and not burn out and die of exhaustion when you add that to the new responsibilities of being a parent. The trick is changing your work to be more EFFICIENT, more FLEXIBLE, more AUTOMATED, so that you can reap the SAME REWARDS for LESS TIME on deck, physically and mentally. We label this ‘Working SMARTER not HARDER’.

Fast-forwarding to the present. I have 2 very active boys. I still love being a mum. I still love working. But I saw the parts in my life that weren’t compatible with my work and I made changes.

I don’t work for anyone anymore. I have started my own business. This allows me to work on my own time. Night events turned into day conferences and meetings so that I’m not a zombie in the morning for school drop offs. There is always time for ME time and my and HUBBY time. I’m still performing, but I’m choosing my gigs wisely….And the BIGGEST shift is being able to leverage modern technology and the internet to do business so that I can work from anywhere, using a phone or a laptop.

WHAT DO I DO?
I COACH online on my phone, usually in my backyard.
I’m a digital marketer, I make commissions by REFERRING products and programs to the people who need them.
I HELP other mums (and people) like me start their own businesses and get their groove back.
I CREATE and INSPIRE others to go after what they are passionate about by setting an example and going first.
I CONNECT and SHARE ideas and energy with like-minded individuals in my beautiful community.

WHO AM I?

I’m Roxy, I’m a MUM AND an Entrepreneur, AND a Performer, AND a Boss AND an Independent and Empowered Woman.

So if you are sitting at home with your babies wanting a little MORE out of life and a little more for YOURSELF, Click below, register for a free webinar and let me HELP YOU get on the path to being a mum AND….✨

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Is it a SCAM??

More and more I see my feed filling up with programs promising to turn you into a millionaire and fast-track you to some glamorous life.  Every entrepreneur wanting you to buy their ‘secret to success’ or ‘millionaire hack’…

A few friends have even signed up and then realised they were being taken for a ride by a scam that was taking money off them and had lured them in with ‘shiny things’.

Most of us have had that experience though.  If you think that you are the only person who signed up for something, and then realised you wasted your money on some garbage, let me confidently reassure you that YOU ARE NOT.

So how do you know whether what you are getting yourself into is legit?

Here’s a few points to think about when deciding:

YOU CAN’T GET SOMETHING (GOOD) FOR NOTHING

You will have to invest TIME or MONEY or BOTH in order to get good results.  Expect to put some time and energy into your business for the most part, at least at the beginning anyway.

LOOK FOR A GUARANTEE

A company who believes in their own products and services will always offer and trial and/or money back guarantee.

Look at the people involved:

Who are they?

What kind of people are they?

Are they just like you?

Are they the kind of people you can be friends with in the real world?

Are they genuine?  

Do you feel aligned with their ideas?

Remember, most people walk away from a job/business because of issues with their coworkers not issues with the money so be aware of the community you are exposing yourself to when starting a new opportunity.

TRANSPARENCY

Is there an open discussion around what the opportunity is about?

Now we don’t need a company to reveal all the details of their strategies and give away secrets, but they should at least be forthcoming with where they stand and what they do in the business/online space, Whether that be

NW marketing

Digital marketing

Alternate currencies

Surveys or Education etc…

Before you spend your money, make the effort to at least understand what type of service or product you are investing in.

EDUCATE YOURSELF

If you want to know how to do something, find someone who has ALREADY done that thing and ask them to TEACH you or point you in the right direction to LEARN.

Like, if you want to be a better singer, find one of the best singers you know and ask them how they became skilled.  (I can help you with this by the way)

And if you want to be a millionaire, go and learn from millionaires. (I can also help you with this one).

NOTHING IS EVER DONE WELL WITHOUT EDUCATION.  But you also need to know WHERE to find the RIGHT education.  And most of the best education today, takes place OUTSIDE of School and Uni.

People are doing amazing things online and earning some incredible $$$, AND retaining their time freedom whilst doing it.

The difference between THEM and YOU is that they have put in the time to LEARN from the right people and IMPLEMENT at the right time.

Are you ready to educate yourself?

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WHAT HAVE YOU GOT TO LOSE?

IT TOOK ME 3 MONTHS of watching my girlfriend online before I reached out to ask her what she was doing.

In that 3 months I saw the most amazing transformation in her. She went from being a tired and worn out NW marketer, who was always hustling and constantly having to chase people and hard sell them for very little money in return, to this amazing confident leader, loving life, travelling and living across 3 continents in the space of 6 months, GLOWING and grateful for her new online business.

Naturally I was curious so I asked her what it was all about and she said that she had found a new online business opportunity that allowed her to grow and focus on being the best of herself. One that through automation, allowed her the FREEDOM to work and spend the time on the things and people that she wanted to. And one that made her the same amount of money in 3 months that she would make in a YEAR in her previous NW marketing job.

She asked me if I wanted to check it out. I watched a webinar, but I was a skeptic. It just seemed too good to be true! Surely no-one makes that kind of money that fast without something shifty going on right? There must be something else I was missing. I knew nothing about working online. I didn’t even know that these particular opportunities existed.

But here she was, my girl, who I had known for 10 years, LIVING PROOF.
Showing me that it was REAL,
Showing me that it was POSSIBLE,
Guiding me every step of the way and
Ready to believe that I could be SUCCESSFUL too.

All I needed to do was to trust ME. And jump in. And so that’s what I did.

Fast forward a few months and here I am:
100% more CONFIDENT
100% more FOCUSED
100% more PRESENT in my own life
100% KNOWING of my worth and power.

And the money situation?
Let’s just say I’m not worried about bills and not having work or not being able to look after my family financially anymore.

– IT ALL MAKES SENSE NOW –
The bump up in cash flow is because making $600-1200 in commissions from 1 sale is so much better than making $20. And both sales pretty much take the SAME amount of work. And TBH I never really have to sell anything directly to anyone.
The rest of it is all about me and how I show up, how I inspire and share beautiful knowledge and energy with others.

Friends, I have NEVER seen anything like this before and I’m so ready to share it with YOU. My online community are launching a new business opportunity via a live webinar and I’m inviting all of you to come and check it out. For FREE.
Just click below and I will send you the link.

WHAT HAVE YOU GOT TO LOSE?

I watched my girlfriend for 3 months before I jumped in, and my only regret was that I didn’t start this earlier and I wasted so much time settling for less.

Today I’m so grateful for her and this opportunity Xx

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Does fear of unpopularity hold us back from speaking our truths?

For a month now I have been tossing up ideas in my head to blog about, and then shutting them down based on how they may reflect on myself and my career or image as an artist or a writer, because some how, the world seems to have descended into a huge popularity contest, where if your opinion does not fit in with the status quo then frankly you better keep your mouth shut or face being criticized, trolled, boycotted or worse. I’ve heard so many stories about people getting persecuted over shit that they have said not just recently, but 20, 30, 40 years ago. Some of those things which had already been brought to light, resolved and apologised for, coming back for yet another bite in the ass.

I don’t know about you, but I’m definitely not the same person I was 20 years ago. To be honest I don’t even think that I’m the same person that I was last week. Life is such that we are constantly evolving as human beings and our ability to learn creates opportunity to change our thoughts and feelings over time. At one stage we were all ignorant. And then we experienced, we researched, we learnt and we changed – for better or worse, however, the shift in thought still occurred. So when I think about people these days, digging up old words and opinions of someone in order to push some kind of take down operation, I can’t help but wonder if the situation is unjust.

Must we start censoring ourselves in order for us not to be targeted in the future?

Because sometimes that’s what I find myself doing. ‘Oh I shouldn’t write that because people will get offended, or take it the wrong way or hold it against me later’

So what does this say about freedom of speech and expression today? Do we value popularity more than truth? If everyone shares the same hesitation I do sometimes, then the world might forever be led by those who can speak the loudest, rather than those who are right…. And that is a very scary world to live in.

So what do we do then?

Well we ‘grow some balls’, voice our opinions and stand by them, but also give opportunity for people to challenge and convince us otherwise. The second part of that sentence is where I think people struggle the most. People should be able to say what ever they damn well want. And we DO NOT need to agree with them. And that is OK.

This simple concept seems to be so difficult many to grasp. Words are words and we should be able to express them freely. It is only when you ACT on an idea and cause harm to others that you should rightly dealt with. And I’m not talking about ‘hurting people’s feelings’ kinda harm here. We need to learn how to agree to disagree. If you have a different opinion to me, I should be able to hear and acknowledge that opinion, but I also should have the right to think that you are a fuckwit and disagree with you. And vice versa. I mean when did we all get so ‘soft’ anyway?

The reality is, if you do not let people express through speech and language, then their natural progression is to ACT in order to be noticed. And this is much more dangerous cause ‘sticks and stones’ and all.

Every human feels the need to be heard and we should not be so quick to silence opinions that are different or challenging to us. Rather, we must learn to debate, communicate and understand each other, even when we don’t agree. And most importantly we must believe that we have the power to convince others, to change and to evolve our thoughts and ideas. Otherwise what hope do we have to live together peacefully?

We should not be scared to voice our opinions regardless of how unpopular they may be, and we should not try to smother the voice of others. Censorship and oppression are never the answer. It is amazing to see so many ‘free speech’ advocates actively trying to silence their opposition.

I don’t want to live in a world where I have to Censor myself on the most basic level ‘just in case’.

I’m human and creative and I live to express.

Express Yourself

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Thank god for creative expression.

These few weeks have been challenging on my heart and I’m so thankful that I know how to channel the negative energy, anger and frustration into my music, using those emotions to sing the shit out of songs on stage.  And after I release this storm of emotions, I’m calm and clear headed again.  It wasn’t an easy transformation to being an emotive performer, but now that I’m here, theres no turning back, not even half way.  Singing through my anxiety, pain, anger, joy and happiness is a tool that now I simply could not live without.

I think about people who don’t have an outlet to express.  What must that be like?  Like a soda bottle of emotions fizzing up and ready to explode but the lid screwed on tight.  It just can’t be healthy for us to hold in our emotions like that.  It would manifest poison into the body which would bleed into every aspect of our live.

So if you haven’t found your outlet yet, start looking today.  Music, art, crafts, writing, exercising, meditating, dancing, whatever it is, you NEED something.  Negative energy is not worth holding on to.  And people who serve that up to you need to be let go.  Distance yourself from the poison and you will live a happier life.

Unfortunately sometimes in order to do that we have to distance ourselves from people we love.  And that is one of the hardest things in life.

I’m so grateful for the ability to express.

If you don’t know how to, seek help..

Roxy Xx

 

Draw the lines thick

People only treat you the way you allow them to.

We’ve all had a time when we’ve invested our energy into the wrong person or situation or have come to realize someone close was not who they appeared to be.  The eye opening moment when someone shows their real colours can be a disappointing, hurtful and enraging one.  And when it happens to us and we are scarred, it’s easy to put up a wall and withdraw away from others in hopes to avoid reoccurring disappointment.  But shutting out people isnt the right answer.  Rather, we must draw clearer lines in the sand in relation to how we want to be treated and what our expectation of others are.

Some people are just shit.

Seeing the good in everyone and giving the benefit of the doubt often leaves me open to being used.  And sometimes it doesn’t matter how well you treat someone or how much you try to help them, or do good in the world, people will still hate on you, talk shit or see something you are doing wrong.  Shit people, who only think about themselves and project all of their negative crap onto you.

I’ve learnt that people often accuse you of the very thing that they are capable of doing.  Those who accuse of stealing have stolen before.  Those who accuse of cheating have cheated before and so on.  So when it happens, I don’t tolerate it anymore.  Part of being grown is dictating to the world your expectation and deciding who gets to be a part of that world.

Good people deserve good people. 

If you live your life trying to be the best version of yourself and to help those around you then you deserve the same in return. Period. Unfortunately, sometimes in this world, nice guys (and ladies) finish last.  And it seems that the bullshit artists, haters, vultures and cheaters land on top.  In my opinion, it is partially the fault of the ‘nice’.  Often the ‘nice’ are enablers.  Often the nice are submissive.  Often the nice are apathetic.

More and more with the breaking down of the worlds social skills and conscience, ironically at the fault advancement of technology & ‘social’ media, there is a lot of grey around what behavior is deemed appropriate.  So we must start setting clearer boundaries and not assume that ‘people should know where that line is’.  If you draw an invisible line you can be sure some will cross it, even unintentionally.  So when someone does something that doesn’t sit right with you, tell them.

It’s all in the delivery.

When someone crosses that line, you don’t always have to fly off the handle and get all up their face aggressively.  A lot of the time these people don’t realize that they have crossed into the ‘red zone’.  Always approach gently but firm, until you have a good read on the situation.  If you can see that this person is deliberately acting inappropriately or is purposely using your calm, non-confrontational nature to get away with doing wrong by you then its time to push a bit harder (or go to war depending on the situation lol).  Sometimes when you explain things precisely, logically, nicely to someone, they genuinely understand and care enough to stop doing the wrong thing.  Then again, some people need a punch to the head (or the equivalent in words) to get it – to get back to their side of the line.

In plain english

I guess what I’m trying to say is:   If I’m trying to help you and you go around talking shit about me behind my back, and telling everyone that I’m dodgy,  don’t expect me not to say anything to you next time I see you.  Don’t expect me to keep helping you, and don’t expect me to act like we all good.  Because if I allow it to happen once, then what goes to say you wont continue to do those things in the future? And if you can’t see the good in me, then you probably don’t have much good in you, so not having you around is not going to be much of a loss.  Also time does not heal wounds, conversations and resolutions do

Stay real Xx

 

 

 

Attitude

Attitudes

Thought of the day:

Nobody wants to be around, work and play with someone who has a bad attitude. Attitude and is often regarded higher than skill because it is far easier to teach someone a new skill than adjust their attitude.

Good Attitude and good energy will open so many doors and will generally rub off on the people around you (or scare off those who don’t have one) #winwin

Take time to be present

We forget sometimes how important it is to upkeep our friendships and relationships with others.  Life can be overwhelmingly busy and we can often get too wrapped up in work, earning money, problem solving and passion projects.  It can be easy to forget friends and loved ones who are ‘low maintenance’ and ‘understanding of our busy schedules’.  But it shouldn’t be the norm.

Never having time for your friends and family is a no go.  Having extended periods of time without up-keep on these relationships makes for your being a very lonely person in the end.  And it doesn’t matter how ‘cool with it’ you think your friend or partner is.

At some point you are showing them where you have placed them in your life, on a ladder of priority.  If your family sits down the ladder at 100th or even  50th place on that priority scale, way behind work, stress, bills, mortgage, networking associates and leads, then how can you argue that you work so hard to provide for them and make them happy?

Happiness is not measured by the amount in your bank account or the amount of possessions and assets you own.  You can still be happy when you have nothing.  But when you have no-one, ‘Happy’ gets significantly more difficult.

Mostly, what your real family and friends desire to have is your attention, your company and your presence, both physical and emotional.  Sometimes we must stop thinking about ourselves being ATMs and Workhorses enough to understand the more important things in life.

It doesn’t take much time to send a text, email, message, to make a phone call even.  You may think that you have zero time. But you always have time because simply put, what could possibly be more important?  What is your life without them?  If you are really struggling to keep up with relationship maintenance schedule it. Schedule it like you do your lunch, or a meeting.  Put it in the calendar : 6-7pm cuddles with kids, 3-4pm returning social messages, 130-2pm phone call to mum 8-10pm No screen time (turn off phones, Ipads etc and spend time with the people around you).  Treat it like any other work task of the day, because it is just as important.

Balancing career, family, friends and personal development isn’t an easy thing to do.  But it’s not impossible if you believe in the importance of it.  Remember that if you dedicate all your time to success & riches, you might end up there…alone.  Just a little effort here and there will definitely go along way with you loved ones, and ensure they still feel loved 🙂

 

 

 

My Art Not Yours

 

Everyone who deals with creatives should read this.

Let me just put this out there:  Like many creatives in this world, I have a problem with authority.  I simply don’t like being told what to do, it makes me feel oppressed.  But evermore annoying are people who try to fuck with my art.  I’m a performer, singer, songwriter and artist and have been for the most part of my life and I still have people who have no idea about being a muso/creative trying to tell me how I should live my life, that I should get a real job or that I should change my art.

ITS MINE NOT YOURS. Its Art.  I couldn’t give a fuck about whether you like it or not.  I LIKE IT. That’s why I do it.  The more I evolve as an artist, the more I realise that it cannot be about making money or trying to please everybody.  It doesn’t matter how good you are, there is always going to be somebody that wont like you or understand your vibe.  And the more defined you are, the less people you will appeal to.  And that’s totally OK.

Don’t get me wrong.  I like feedback on projects that I’m working on, and I regularly ask this from my peers, mentors and trusted peeps and sometimes fans, but that is when it is in its building, and creating process.  If I’ve already released my single and done the photos and printed out 100 000 copies and sold a bunch – you’ve kinda missed the boat on helping me arrange the vocals etc… at this point you either like it or you don’t.  I’m fine with that.  And if you start a sentence with “You know you would make more money if you….”  I might punch you in the face (or at least tune you out for the next few phrases).

Of course I would like to make more money from my art.  But not if it means selling out and compromising the very thing that makes me feel good about it.  It is already difficult to have a good balance between business & creative passion, So if you like my stuff and want to help by sharing it with others than awesome. And if it’s not for you, I understand.

This also goes with my live band/s.  If you saw me somewhere with my band and you like what we do.  Don’t book us then ask us to do something completely different.  If you saw my Rnb band and you loved it, don’t book us for your wedding and ask if we can play rock and roll and love shack and heavy metal all night.  The answer is no.  Even if we could, its not what we have chosen to do as an outfit.  A few requests will always be fine but when you are micro-managing our set list, we probably won’t enjoy our night.

Real art and music is personal and takes a lot of courage to share with others.  And we creatives are sensitive as fuck.  So when you give feed back, be gentle and detailed and helpful, not dismissive, authoritative and vague.  And choose your timing wisely.

And yes, I know I should “Get a website, get social media and get more followers’.  Don’t just tell me about it…help me.

To the creatives out there, I’m sure I’ve hit home with this for some of you, I’d love to know what are your other pet peeves when it comes to this stuff?  Feel free to comment below 🙂

 

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