What will you do differently in 2020?

It’s that time of the year when a lot of us are reflecting on what we achieved, and what we lost or fell short on, in hopes to pull some intentions and goals together for the coming new year.

Setting intentions is one thing…but the challenge is always the FOLLOW THROUGH.

You can read about change, talk about change, watch videos about change, learn about change, but until you IMPLEMENT CHANGE…nothing will change.. Get it?🤔

So WHAT WILL YOU DO DIFFERENTLY THIS TIME?

I asked myself this at the beginning of 2019.
And then went on to have a year of massive GROWTH. 🙌🙌🙌

I have expanded my skillset,
I have confronted so many past issues,
Removed blocks that were holding me back
and have really taken control of the direction of my life.

This year I IMPLEMENTED the things that I already knew would help, and I learnt about WHAT ELSE I could do from the happiest and most successful people that I could find.

But the MAIN THING that I did that was different:

I placed myself in a community that would hold me ACCOUNTABLE for getting my shit together.

Coaches, business gurus, healers, successful entrepreneurs, teachers, mentors and go-getters who have become my friends and personal cheerleaders,
who have picked me up when I wanted to give in,
who have pushed me forward when I was fearful,
who constantly reminded me of my WORTH and STRENGTH
and who have both reflected on my failures, and celebrated my wins.

I’M SO FUCKING GRATEFUL FOR THIS…🙏

I feel amazing because of this.
Business is great because of this.
My family is thriving because of this.
And 2020 is going to be massively positive for me because of this.

And so friends,
If you are wondering what it’s gonna take,
if you are up to making REAL PROGRESS and change,
to experience real personal GROWTH and FULFILMENT,
to smash through goals and just DO BETTER for yourself,
REACH OUT and let me introduce you to the space I found.

LET ME HELP YOU GET IT TOGETHER.

Because everybody deserves to have a better 2020.
Including YOU.
And I would be delighted to be a part of your journey. Especially if you have been sitting back and watching mine this year.

DON’T WAIT.
Let’s get started on making next year the beginning of your BEST.

IT’S TIME TO FLY HIGH MY FRIENDS ✈️

What about next year?

I’m already thinking about next year, are you?

 

There is only 30 days left till 2020 and I’m so excited to be doing more of ME in the new year.

If you have been following, I’ve been rattling on a lot about the new direction of my coaching and my work this year.

It’s been an incredible journey of discovering and redefining myself and showing my full potential to the world.

✨Sometimes we forget who we ARE. And we become what we DO. ✨

Singing is not who I am, it’s just one of the things that I do… And this year has been about leading with MYSELF rather than my TALENTS so that I can find people who align with me first… 

Because I no longer want to work with just anybody. I want to work with people who GET ME and vice versa. 

But in order to find those people, I need to share more about who I am rather than what I do. I had it backwards for a very long time 🤦‍♀️

It actually works with every business or brand too. 

People buy from businesses and brands that they like and relate to. So you need only to work on finding who those people are for you… (hint – It really helps when you know and accept who you are first)

When YOU are the thing people attach to then you create a loyal network that trust you enough to move with you when you decide to change direction or offer a new product or service. 

These people see you for who you are rather than what you do…. And that is GOLD. 

But back to me and next year. 

I’m still singing.

I‘m still making music. 

I’m still vocal coaching /producing

I’m still being a mum and wifey and daughter.

But I’m also supporting creatives to realise their full potential as artists. 

I’m also helping people get their businesses going.

I’m also making sure my friends don’t ever feel alone.

I’m also promoting wellness and health and personal development.

I’m also coaching people how to monetise who they are rather than what they do…

And it’s hella satisfying. 

And next year I’ll be doing a lot more of it.

And if you are feeling me then I’d love to be working with you too.

 

Let’s talk about it…

Roxy Xx

But what will they say…

When I stopped worrying about what other people would think about me, my opportunities quadrupled and my income tripled.

It’s so amazing how we so willingly accept other people’s opinion and judgement as our truths.

Nobody knows you more than YOU.
Nobody gets to decide your intention when doing something but YOU.
Nobody lives through your story and decisions more than YOU.

But it’s easy to surrender responsibility to others.

I get it. That was me. Always asking advice from my friends (even on the smallest things), Always hesitating do put myself out there because: What would people think? What would people say? How will this decision be perceived?

Always needing someone to validate my actions. TO VALIDATE ME.

What I didn’t realise for a long time is that I allowed others to control and design MY LIFE because of this. People form opinions based on their personal experiences and HISTORY. And everyone’s story and experiences are unique even though some may seem the same.

Which means that yes, you can learn from other people’s mistakes, but the outcome that someone gets from doing something might not be the same as the outcome that you might get from doing the EXACT same thing. There are too many external factors that make up peoples experiences, successes, failures and opinions. And sometimes the WIN you might get it is worth the RISK.

So should you listen to what others SAY? yes, but not everyone…
Should it override how you FEEL about something? Nope.

The best way is to TRY and form your OWN opinions. And WIN, or LEARN…

If I had listened to the people around me or cared what they would think:

I would have not moved to Sydney when I finished school.
I would not have auditioned for Australian Idol back in the day.
I would have not created The Starlettes, The Boutique, The Alternative.
I would have not been an Artist (they told me that I should only be a writer)
I would have given up on RNB.
I would have given up on singing and writing my own songs a long time ago to “get a real job”.
I would not have moved to Mauritius.
I would not have moved to Perth.
I would not be running my own business,
I would not be earning income from living my truth and spreading my message today.

My biggest successes have come from making decisions WITHOUT caring about others opinions.

Because nobody knows my truth like I do.
And finding space to listen to my intuition and backing myself wholeheartedly has made the world of difference to my life.

I AM WHO I WANT TO BE ALL THE TIME NOW.
And with that CERTAINTY and CONFIDENCE comes OPPORTUNITY and SUCCESS.

And I’m here to EMPOWER others to do the same… However it looks like for them.

Let me know if you are READY 👇

I’m done with hiding

HERE’S THE THING. I’M DONE WITH HIDING.

People still say to me – “It wouldn’t kill you to put a little makeup on or brush your hair before you do your videos, Roxy.”

And you know what — it might. It might kill that beautiful idea that my peeps all currently have of me that I’m super proud of: I am authentically, and unapolegitically me. 👊

And when I dont want to dress up for you, I wont.
Because I dont need to hide behind smoke and mirrors to share my message.

And if you are going to reject what I have to say about life, because I didn’t pluck my eyebrows or put on some lipstick then “bye felicia…” my message isn’t for you.👋

I share when I feel like I have something to say and when I have value to give back to my community. And sometimes there’s no time to worry about what it looks like and what people will say about me.

I don’t need to do myself up to feel beautiful and confident. I made that happen from the inside.
I got over myself. Because what I do and how I serve others is ultimately NOT ABOUT ME.

In my life I have learnt from all different kinds of people, from all walks of life, of various cultures and backgrounds, of every age group. I have learnt to listen past the bullshit aesthetic stuff. You know that saying ‘Dont judge a book by its cover….’ Yeh that shit…💯

Because if you limit yourself to only listening to people who look/sound right. Then you are putting a massive cap on your learning.

Everyone has a lesson to teach if you are willing to listen hard enough… And sometimes the best lessons are taught in the most unorthodox ways, by the most unexpected people. ✨

What’s Your Side Hustle?

One of the key points to respecting and honoring our special talents as musicians is to not sell ourselves short or undervalue our gifts.

But it’s sometimes hard to do this when you have bills to pay.
I mean, when you think about it, why would we want to work a day job for $20-30 per hour when we can make on average $300-$500+ per gig?
Once we start getting paid for gigs, we tend to struggle to be able to accept being paid so little per hour elsewhere.

So we take as many gigs as possible, “Ho-ing” out our talents 5-6 nights a week to rely on this for our living expenses. The money’s good, but after a while, performing feels like work (because in this instance it is) and the body suffers.

We get tired, we burn out, and when music is the sole source of income that we rely on to live, we often over do it, lose motivation and set aside our passion projects, like originals, to pursue other music avenues and gigs that pay more now.

I’m not saying that it doesn’t work for everyone –we have some amazingly successful musicians right here in our community. But as it gets increasingly difficult to make money in the industry, some of us fall into the trap that the gig scene and cover band life can be.

DONT TAKE YOUR PASSION AND ALLOW IT TO IMPRISON YOU BY MAKING IT THE ONLY WAY THAT YOU CAN EARN MONEY TO LIVE.

You may not be able to take a break and in the long run it will lead to burn out.

Hold space for passion in your art first and foremost.
Make music and perform because it feels good first, and allow the money to be a bonus.
Put yourself in a position where you can PICK and CHOOSE your gigs.

ENTER SIDE HUSTLE

*** I’m talking about the kind that doesn’t require you to use or pick up your instrument.

Your side hustle should be something that allows you to make enough income to cover your expenses,so that you can pick and choose your music projects and gigs, or TAKE A BREAK when you need to.

Your side hustle SUPPORTS your creativity and allows you to value your gift more and say NO when the conditions are not right for you.
Your side hustle DOES NOT take up all of your time or take you away from your art. (Otherwise it’s not “side”)

And if your side hustle pays more than what you make per hour in music and gigs, you’ve done well. 👏👏👏

My business teaches people how to find the right side hustle for them.

What’s your side hustle??

And if you don’t have one, or are unhappy with what you’ve currently got going, click below to register for a free webinar and allow me help you create something amazing for yourself

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Express Yourself

Roxy Live

Thank god for creative expression.

These few weeks have been challenging on my heart and I’m so thankful that I know how to channel the negative energy, anger and frustration into my music, using those emotions to sing the shit out of songs on stage.  And after I release this storm of emotions, I’m calm and clear headed again.  It wasn’t an easy transformation to being an emotive performer, but now that I’m here, theres no turning back, not even half way.  Singing through my anxiety, pain, anger, joy and happiness is a tool that now I simply could not live without.

I think about people who don’t have an outlet to express.  What must that be like?  Like a soda bottle of emotions fizzing up and ready to explode but the lid screwed on tight.  It just can’t be healthy for us to hold in our emotions like that.  It would manifest poison into the body which would bleed into every aspect of our live.

So if you haven’t found your outlet yet, start looking today.  Music, art, crafts, writing, exercising, meditating, dancing, whatever it is, you NEED something.  Negative energy is not worth holding on to.  And people who serve that up to you need to be let go.  Distance yourself from the poison and you will live a happier life.

Unfortunately sometimes in order to do that we have to distance ourselves from people we love.  And that is one of the hardest things in life.

I’m so grateful for the ability to express.

If you don’t know how to, seek help..

Roxy Xx

 

My Art Not Yours

 

Everyone who deals with creatives should read this.

Let me just put this out there:  Like many creatives in this world, I have a problem with authority.  I simply don’t like being told what to do, it makes me feel oppressed.  But evermore annoying are people who try to fuck with my art.  I’m a performer, singer, songwriter and artist and have been for the most part of my life and I still have people who have no idea about being a muso/creative trying to tell me how I should live my life, that I should get a real job or that I should change my art.

ITS MINE NOT YOURS. Its Art.  I couldn’t give a fuck about whether you like it or not.  I LIKE IT. That’s why I do it.  The more I evolve as an artist, the more I realise that it cannot be about making money or trying to please everybody.  It doesn’t matter how good you are, there is always going to be somebody that wont like you or understand your vibe.  And the more defined you are, the less people you will appeal to.  And that’s totally OK.

Don’t get me wrong.  I like feedback on projects that I’m working on, and I regularly ask this from my peers, mentors and trusted peeps and sometimes fans, but that is when it is in its building, and creating process.  If I’ve already released my single and done the photos and printed out 100 000 copies and sold a bunch – you’ve kinda missed the boat on helping me arrange the vocals etc… at this point you either like it or you don’t.  I’m fine with that.  And if you start a sentence with “You know you would make more money if you….”  I might punch you in the face (or at least tune you out for the next few phrases).

Of course I would like to make more money from my art.  But not if it means selling out and compromising the very thing that makes me feel good about it.  It is already difficult to have a good balance between business & creative passion, So if you like my stuff and want to help by sharing it with others than awesome. And if it’s not for you, I understand.

This also goes with my live band/s.  If you saw me somewhere with my band and you like what we do.  Don’t book us then ask us to do something completely different.  If you saw my Rnb band and you loved it, don’t book us for your wedding and ask if we can play rock and roll and love shack and heavy metal all night.  The answer is no.  Even if we could, its not what we have chosen to do as an outfit.  A few requests will always be fine but when you are micro-managing our set list, we probably won’t enjoy our night.

Real art and music is personal and takes a lot of courage to share with others.  And we creatives are sensitive as fuck.  So when you give feed back, be gentle and detailed and helpful, not dismissive, authoritative and vague.  And choose your timing wisely.

And yes, I know I should “Get a website, get social media and get more followers’.  Don’t just tell me about it…help me.

To the creatives out there, I’m sure I’ve hit home with this for some of you, I’d love to know what are your other pet peeves when it comes to this stuff?  Feel free to comment below 🙂

 

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Am I not good enough?

As creative people, it is often that we come across feelings of insecurity and we question our self-worth.  You’ll find that even some of the most successful creators in the world sometimes struggle with self confidence – the questions ‘Am I not good enough?’ or ‘Do I deserve this?’ lurking in the dark corners of their minds.

You see, to be an artist, you must be able to feel things, emotions, energy and vibes. We let down our guards and open ourselves up to be susceptible to the feel of everything around us, and we try to feel these emotions through, rather than suppress them.  Then we use these emotions and feels create and relate in a meaningful way.  This process can often leave us vulnerable and sensitive.

When you open yourself up to a more emotional state, you often cannot control the feelings that you will absorb or bring up.  It’s why we see some of the best creators in the world struggle with demons of anxiety disorders and depression.

Is it worth it? In my opinion, to feel is to be human, and a life without a certain level of emotion is pointless.  So in with the good vibes – and sometimes the bad.

Sometimes I don’t feel like I’m good enough.  My singing, my ability to perform and teach, my writing, my appearance, my intellect.  And this feeling is often attached to a need for validation.

Social media plays a big part in today’s world as a tool for people to be validated, judged and accepted.  There are people literally dying for views, likes, and follows.  And therefore getting upset and torn down by the lack of these interactions.

Picture this, I spend a week thinking, writing, recording and making a video and original song. And when I post in online, it gets under 10 views, 3 likes an no comments.  No one cares.  Was it a crap song? Do I look bad in the video? Is my vocal not u to scratch? Am I good enough?….Why do I even bother?

10 minutes before posting, I was super proud of my work and feeling a sense of achievement.  And the just like that, I’m shattered.  Maybe by a computer robot that decided not to show my post in friends’ news feed?.  But that doesn’t matter, I’ve already been knocked down.  And sometimes that’s enough to set off a downward spiral into depression.

Then my coping mechanism kicks in.  My state of mind flips over to logical rather than emotional.  I focus on the things I have rather than what I don’t. And slowly the gauge moves from negative to positive.  That is a process I have worked very hard to develop.  I think about the things that I have achieved in my career and life, and  I remember positive comments that people have given me in the past.  I also remember how nice it felt to create my work.  The journey itself, was my reward.  And that’s it people!  The value of creating is in the creating, not the sale.  And that needs to be enough otherwise you will always feel let down.  Self validation is the key.  “I love this piece of work, I enjoyed making it, it’s awesome”.  That should be enough.  But it is easier said than done.

Creatives wake up each day and choose to be vulnerable, and to share personal experiences and emotions with us through their work, for the betterment of the world.  What would the world be like without art and music? Fucking horrible.

And sometimes we fail or are lazy, or too busy to acknowledge that contribution.  And when we fail to support and acknowledge others, we leave room for those people to feel hindered and ask themselves ‘what is the point?’

No I’m not saying that it is your fault that people  sometimes don’t feel good enough.  What I’m saying is:  Try to be a part of the thoughts that derail the negativity.  Try to be part of the coping mechanism.  Be the positive comment in the back of a creative mind.  We all need reassurance sometimes, even the most confident of us.

It’s very simple.  When you see something on social media that you like. Like it.  Better yet, comment on it.  Because the more interaction and response the post gets, the more it will be shown to others.  So many ridiculous posts go viral these days and too often I see real art being overlooked and ignored.

Support your creatives, my friends.  Not just online, go out and see a show, buy an album, share and spread the word.  And tell them. Tell them if you think they are awesome, even if you think that they must hear it all the time from others.  Because one day,  when that person is feeling sub-par, they might think about how you support them and it may just be enough for them to pick themselves up and keep going.  Your simple deed could be that person’s savior.

My fellow creatives, I’m so honored to be in the presence of your talent.  Enjoy creating and don’t let lack of interaction or trolling hinder you.  The journey and process is often more important than the outcome.  The world sees you. The world appreciates you. And the world needs you .  Stay shining.

Roxy Xx

 

PS if you like what I’m doing, feel free to share, comment like and follow.  Or you can support my work on Patreon  at http://www.patreon/roxanelebrasse

 

 

 

 

Opportunity Knocks…But are you even home?

There’s always a way to turn your life around.  We are always only one decision away from changing our lives.

Sometimes we find ourselves in a rut.  And the world doesn’t favour our best interests. World best seller book ‘The Secret’ tells us that we can manifest our destiny by thinking about how it would feel to have certain things.  So I spent hours with my head down concentrating on that mansion at the sea and a massive bank balance but alas! My millions haven’t arrived yet.

Then I thought, what am I actively doing to help my situation?  How much effort am I actually putting in to make things work?  To make my life better? When opportunity knocks, Am I ready and waiting to invite it in? Am I even home? Do I even hear that doorbell?

If you are too busy for change and for yourself, then you are basically telling the universe to come back later. We can’t just pray/ask for something good, and then when it arrives (even the smallest hint), ignore and put in on the ‘back-burner’.  If our heads are too far in the clouds (or deep in paperwork, spreadsheets, bills, stress),  we give up the ability to see the small steps to change and opportunity.

For example, If you want to quit your job and start working for yourself.  And then some one gives you an opportunity to jump in on a free online course about starting a small business, and you can’t do it because you have too much work to get done… You’ve pretty much shut the door on the very opportunity you asked for in the first place.  You’ve told the universe “umm…actually…no I really don’t want that”.

Commitment to your goals and committing your energy to something is what will make it grow.  So if you commit your energy to hating your job, that hate will grow too.  But if you commit your energy into finding a way to make money from something you love to do, opportunities will keep presenting themselves until you find the right one.  But you have to look to find and you have to be conscious about your goals.

If you don’t know where you are going, how are you going to get there?

The first step is to work out where you would like to be, and how you would like to feel.  And Write that shit down!.  List a few goals.  They do not need to be set in concrete, they will most certainly change and evolve as you do.

The next step is to do a bit of research.  On the net, in person, in books.  What are other people doing?  What’s available to me? Who do I know that can help?  What are my strengths and passions and how could they be turned into a project?  You can have a million ideas and it’s totally ok to research all of them.  Vocalise your goals to other people, tell everyone around you.  You’ll keep reminding yourself of where you are going and someone might know someone who may be able to help you in some way. Actively looking, researching, working on and talking about goals sends a message to the universe that you are serious about change.  It is committing your energy a 1000 times more than just thinking about it.

When the opportunities come, however small, make sure you are available to recognise them.  Make sure you are ready to take them on, make sure you have the ability to commit to the change you asked for.

Side note,  I’ve been chatting to some people to help them find purpose and work out what they are passionate about and how they can create more opportunities for themselves and start investing energy inward.  We bounce business ideas, share tips and work it all out together.  If you need some support with making a positive change.  Please feel free to get in contact with me.

Your comments are very welcome…

Happy Friday Everyone 🙂

 

RoxySIGNoff

Drama Queen 101

Surround yourself with people who want to move forward not live in that past.

Talk about opinions, the world, passions, art, music, philosophy and politics, not other people.

Rub shoulders with the passionate.

Learn from the successful.

There is not enough time in your life for unnecessary drama…

drama