HOW I GOT MY GROOVE BACK and started making $500+ commission per sale at home during nap time and between feeding times.
Choosing to be a mum shouldn’t end your career. But having kids and staying home to raise them can be overwhelming at first. But as the strong women we are, we adapt and change and find a way to manage the busy schedules, the sleepless nights, the nappies, the feeds, the school lunches, the tantrums and the demand for extra attention.
My kids are the best thing that ever happened to me. But they are not the ONLY good things that I have created. I love working, I love feeling financially independent, I love achieving goals, I love completing and closing projects and most of all I love talking…TO ADULTS.
When I had my first baby Chance (now 5), I cut back a lot of my hours to be the amazing mum everyone told me that I would be. I loved my baby in a way I have never felt before and I just wanted to be this super mum that I had seen my friends become over the years. But being a full time mum is hard. Not just physically, but it is taxing mentally and emotionally too. I remember someone saying to you that when you have a baby, that baby will become your entire life and you won’t want to do anything else but look after it…. I was like REALLY?? ANYTHING ELSE??
I worked in events, I performed and coached, I managed talent, I produced shows and I traveled the world….AND THEN I DIDN’T. I loved my job. I wanted to be a mum. But I loved my job, you know.. I didn’t want to choose between the two. The struggle was real. What I mean by the struggle was the guilt. At 3 months old, I left my baby to go on tour again, it wasn’t long, but I still felt like an “abandon-er”, failing to live up to the expectations of motherhood place on my by society.
You see, when we first become mums, we have this idea that everything comes naturally and effortlessly, because that is what we are told. And so when you struggle to do things like, settle, breast feed, or keep up with the general things that you would normally do in life (laundry, dishes, household admin, grooming) you sometimes just feel like a failure.
The one thing that made that feeling of under-achievement go away was going back to work. Going back and feeling like I WAS GOOD at something again. When I felt like a bad mum, I at least could be a damn good performer, producer and manager.
I overcame those new mummy blues after talking to enough mums to realise we pretty much all go through the same thing. But what I did not overcome was the need to be MORE that Just MUM.
And that is totally OK. Motherhood is rewarding and brings beautiful purpose in satisfaction in one’s life. And it is enough for some women. BUT IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE ALL THAT WE ARE. And it most certainly doesn’t have to be the only thing that DEFINES us. We can be a mum AND…..well, whatever the F you like.
The trick is setting yourself up to get what you need out of a career/business life and not burn out and die of exhaustion when you add that to the new responsibilities of being a parent. The trick is changing your work to be more EFFICIENT, more FLEXIBLE, more AUTOMATED, so that you can reap the SAME REWARDS for LESS TIME on deck, physically and mentally. We label this ‘Working SMARTER not HARDER’.
Fast-forwarding to the present. I have 2 very active boys. I still love being a mum. I still love working. But I saw the parts in my life that weren’t compatible with my work and I made changes.
I don’t work for anyone anymore. I have started my own business. This allows me to work on my own time. Night events turned into day conferences and meetings so that I’m not a zombie in the morning for school drop offs. There is always time for ME time and my and HUBBY time. I’m still performing, but I’m choosing my gigs wisely….And the BIGGEST shift is being able to leverage modern technology and the internet to do business so that I can work from anywhere, using a phone or a laptop.
WHAT DO I DO?
I COACH online on my phone, usually in my backyard.
I’m a digital marketer, I make commissions by REFERRING products and programs to the people who need them.
I HELP other mums (and people) like me start their own businesses and get their groove back.
I CREATE and INSPIRE others to go after what they are passionate about by setting an example and going first.
I CONNECT and SHARE ideas and energy with like-minded individuals in my beautiful community.
WHO AM I?
I’m Roxy, I’m a MUM AND an Entrepreneur, AND a Performer, AND a Boss AND an Independent and Empowered Woman.
So if you are sitting at home with your babies wanting a little MORE out of life and a little more for YOURSELF, Click below, register for a free webinar and let me HELP YOU get on the path to being a mum AND….✨