Battle Yourself

These battles we fight on stage.
They are not battles against others.
Actually, most of the time they are battles against ourselves.
A battle against the voice in your head that tells you that
You don’t deserve to be here.
You are not good enough.
You are not strong enough.
That you are too old or young.
Or fat or ugly.

The battle against every troll or keyboard warrior you ever had to deal with.
The battle against all the memories of people telling you that they don’t like your voice,or talent or sound or style.
The battle against the ‘mentors’ that told you that you should stay behind the scenes, because you are not a ‘front’ person.
The battle against those that have devalued you, or never saw your worth.
The battle against the haters and those that sought to hold you back…
The battle against the voice in your head that questions your ability.

And when you can stand strong and own it like a damn Queen…
You’ve already won..
No matter the outcome.

I’ve never felt so empowered.

Thank you The Voice Australia, thank you Ricky Muscat

That was incredible Xx

Express Yourself

Roxy Live

Thank god for creative expression.

These few weeks have been challenging on my heart and I’m so thankful that I know how to channel the negative energy, anger and frustration into my music, using those emotions to sing the shit out of songs on stage.  And after I release this storm of emotions, I’m calm and clear headed again.  It wasn’t an easy transformation to being an emotive performer, but now that I’m here, theres no turning back, not even half way.  Singing through my anxiety, pain, anger, joy and happiness is a tool that now I simply could not live without.

I think about people who don’t have an outlet to express.  What must that be like?  Like a soda bottle of emotions fizzing up and ready to explode but the lid screwed on tight.  It just can’t be healthy for us to hold in our emotions like that.  It would manifest poison into the body which would bleed into every aspect of our live.

So if you haven’t found your outlet yet, start looking today.  Music, art, crafts, writing, exercising, meditating, dancing, whatever it is, you NEED something.  Negative energy is not worth holding on to.  And people who serve that up to you need to be let go.  Distance yourself from the poison and you will live a happier life.

Unfortunately sometimes in order to do that we have to distance ourselves from people we love.  And that is one of the hardest things in life.

I’m so grateful for the ability to express.

If you don’t know how to, seek help..

Roxy Xx

 

My Art Not Yours

 

Everyone who deals with creatives should read this.

Let me just put this out there:  Like many creatives in this world, I have a problem with authority.  I simply don’t like being told what to do, it makes me feel oppressed.  But evermore annoying are people who try to fuck with my art.  I’m a performer, singer, songwriter and artist and have been for the most part of my life and I still have people who have no idea about being a muso/creative trying to tell me how I should live my life, that I should get a real job or that I should change my art.

ITS MINE NOT YOURS. Its Art.  I couldn’t give a fuck about whether you like it or not.  I LIKE IT. That’s why I do it.  The more I evolve as an artist, the more I realise that it cannot be about making money or trying to please everybody.  It doesn’t matter how good you are, there is always going to be somebody that wont like you or understand your vibe.  And the more defined you are, the less people you will appeal to.  And that’s totally OK.

Don’t get me wrong.  I like feedback on projects that I’m working on, and I regularly ask this from my peers, mentors and trusted peeps and sometimes fans, but that is when it is in its building, and creating process.  If I’ve already released my single and done the photos and printed out 100 000 copies and sold a bunch – you’ve kinda missed the boat on helping me arrange the vocals etc… at this point you either like it or you don’t.  I’m fine with that.  And if you start a sentence with “You know you would make more money if you….”  I might punch you in the face (or at least tune you out for the next few phrases).

Of course I would like to make more money from my art.  But not if it means selling out and compromising the very thing that makes me feel good about it.  It is already difficult to have a good balance between business & creative passion, So if you like my stuff and want to help by sharing it with others than awesome. And if it’s not for you, I understand.

This also goes with my live band/s.  If you saw me somewhere with my band and you like what we do.  Don’t book us then ask us to do something completely different.  If you saw my Rnb band and you loved it, don’t book us for your wedding and ask if we can play rock and roll and love shack and heavy metal all night.  The answer is no.  Even if we could, its not what we have chosen to do as an outfit.  A few requests will always be fine but when you are micro-managing our set list, we probably won’t enjoy our night.

Real art and music is personal and takes a lot of courage to share with others.  And we creatives are sensitive as fuck.  So when you give feed back, be gentle and detailed and helpful, not dismissive, authoritative and vague.  And choose your timing wisely.

And yes, I know I should “Get a website, get social media and get more followers’.  Don’t just tell me about it…help me.

To the creatives out there, I’m sure I’ve hit home with this for some of you, I’d love to know what are your other pet peeves when it comes to this stuff?  Feel free to comment below 🙂

 

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