One Decision

I dreamt of a life where I could just create music and spend quality time with my family and friends.
Where the pressure of making money did not rest on my art,
and therefore I could make things that I would LIKE, rather than the things that would SELL (massive difference).
Where I could buy and give my family the highest quality of living without thinking twice about my budget or if I would have enough later.
Where I could choose my gigs based on if I WANTED to go, rather than feel the need to take work or risk being short for my bills and expenses.

A life where I wasn’t held prisoner to my talent or job.

I knew nothing about using the internet for business, except for sharing my music and where I was gigging on facebook etc.
I didn’t understand about SEO or ROIs or even CPE (honestly…I still only know just what I need here)

And then I was introduced to a community of heart-centred entrepreneurs.
People just like me, who wanted more out of life then to pay bills and die.
People who told me that I deserved more and convinced me that it was achievable.

They propped me up.
They set fire to my dreams again.
They kicked my ass when I slacked off.
They celebrated every win and milestone I achieved.
And supported me with skills, education, business advice and coaching every step of the way.

What happened was incredible.
In the last year:

I expanded my teaching business.
I set up a base for me and my family in Perth.
I launched an online program.
I fixed my health.
I got a better hold of my energy and stress levels.
I gave myself a pay rise for my performances.
I travelled and worked remotely, mostly on my own time.
I learnt a ton of new skills.
I earnt money in my sleep!! (I know right!)
I let go of a lot of my issues.
I faced some of my demons.
I put myself on The Voice Australia.
I created the album I’ve been dreaming about for over 10 years (just wait till you hear it).
All while creating multiple ways of earning and giving myself more options for the future.

I still have time to hang with my babies.
I’m still passionate about what I do.
And I’m super excited to help others make break-throughs and changes that have a positive impact on their lives.

I get you might think this is all too good to be true.
I thought it was too, but I gave it a go anyway.
Because the only thing I had to lose was my old life, the old me… And I’m ok with that.

It all started with some epic free online workshops. One decision that I totally wasn’t ready for.
But am so glad I did…And now I’m offering them to you…

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Battle Yourself

These battles we fight on stage.
They are not battles against others.
Actually, most of the time they are battles against ourselves.
A battle against the voice in your head that tells you that
You don’t deserve to be here.
You are not good enough.
You are not strong enough.
That you are too old or young.
Or fat or ugly.

The battle against every troll or keyboard warrior you ever had to deal with.
The battle against all the memories of people telling you that they don’t like your voice,or talent or sound or style.
The battle against the ‘mentors’ that told you that you should stay behind the scenes, because you are not a ‘front’ person.
The battle against those that have devalued you, or never saw your worth.
The battle against the haters and those that sought to hold you back…
The battle against the voice in your head that questions your ability.

And when you can stand strong and own it like a damn Queen…
You’ve already won..
No matter the outcome.

I’ve never felt so empowered.

Thank you The Voice Australia, thank you Ricky Muscat

That was incredible Xx

What will you do differently in 2020?

It’s that time of the year when a lot of us are reflecting on what we achieved, and what we lost or fell short on, in hopes to pull some intentions and goals together for the coming new year.

Setting intentions is one thing…but the challenge is always the FOLLOW THROUGH.

You can read about change, talk about change, watch videos about change, learn about change, but until you IMPLEMENT CHANGE…nothing will change.. Get it?🤔

So WHAT WILL YOU DO DIFFERENTLY THIS TIME?

I asked myself this at the beginning of 2019.
And then went on to have a year of massive GROWTH. 🙌🙌🙌

I have expanded my skillset,
I have confronted so many past issues,
Removed blocks that were holding me back
and have really taken control of the direction of my life.

This year I IMPLEMENTED the things that I already knew would help, and I learnt about WHAT ELSE I could do from the happiest and most successful people that I could find.

But the MAIN THING that I did that was different:

I placed myself in a community that would hold me ACCOUNTABLE for getting my shit together.

Coaches, business gurus, healers, successful entrepreneurs, teachers, mentors and go-getters who have become my friends and personal cheerleaders,
who have picked me up when I wanted to give in,
who have pushed me forward when I was fearful,
who constantly reminded me of my WORTH and STRENGTH
and who have both reflected on my failures, and celebrated my wins.

I’M SO FUCKING GRATEFUL FOR THIS…🙏

I feel amazing because of this.
Business is great because of this.
My family is thriving because of this.
And 2020 is going to be massively positive for me because of this.

And so friends,
If you are wondering what it’s gonna take,
if you are up to making REAL PROGRESS and change,
to experience real personal GROWTH and FULFILMENT,
to smash through goals and just DO BETTER for yourself,
REACH OUT and let me introduce you to the space I found.

LET ME HELP YOU GET IT TOGETHER.

Because everybody deserves to have a better 2020.
Including YOU.
And I would be delighted to be a part of your journey. Especially if you have been sitting back and watching mine this year.

DON’T WAIT.
Let’s get started on making next year the beginning of your BEST.

IT’S TIME TO FLY HIGH MY FRIENDS ✈️

What about next year?

I’m already thinking about next year, are you?

 

There is only 30 days left till 2020 and I’m so excited to be doing more of ME in the new year.

If you have been following, I’ve been rattling on a lot about the new direction of my coaching and my work this year.

It’s been an incredible journey of discovering and redefining myself and showing my full potential to the world.

✨Sometimes we forget who we ARE. And we become what we DO. ✨

Singing is not who I am, it’s just one of the things that I do… And this year has been about leading with MYSELF rather than my TALENTS so that I can find people who align with me first… 

Because I no longer want to work with just anybody. I want to work with people who GET ME and vice versa. 

But in order to find those people, I need to share more about who I am rather than what I do. I had it backwards for a very long time 🤦‍♀️

It actually works with every business or brand too. 

People buy from businesses and brands that they like and relate to. So you need only to work on finding who those people are for you… (hint – It really helps when you know and accept who you are first)

When YOU are the thing people attach to then you create a loyal network that trust you enough to move with you when you decide to change direction or offer a new product or service. 

These people see you for who you are rather than what you do…. And that is GOLD. 

But back to me and next year. 

I’m still singing.

I‘m still making music. 

I’m still vocal coaching /producing

I’m still being a mum and wifey and daughter.

But I’m also supporting creatives to realise their full potential as artists. 

I’m also helping people get their businesses going.

I’m also making sure my friends don’t ever feel alone.

I’m also promoting wellness and health and personal development.

I’m also coaching people how to monetise who they are rather than what they do…

And it’s hella satisfying. 

And next year I’ll be doing a lot more of it.

And if you are feeling me then I’d love to be working with you too.

 

Let’s talk about it…

Roxy Xx

But what will they say…

When I stopped worrying about what other people would think about me, my opportunities quadrupled and my income tripled.

It’s so amazing how we so willingly accept other people’s opinion and judgement as our truths.

Nobody knows you more than YOU.
Nobody gets to decide your intention when doing something but YOU.
Nobody lives through your story and decisions more than YOU.

But it’s easy to surrender responsibility to others.

I get it. That was me. Always asking advice from my friends (even on the smallest things), Always hesitating do put myself out there because: What would people think? What would people say? How will this decision be perceived?

Always needing someone to validate my actions. TO VALIDATE ME.

What I didn’t realise for a long time is that I allowed others to control and design MY LIFE because of this. People form opinions based on their personal experiences and HISTORY. And everyone’s story and experiences are unique even though some may seem the same.

Which means that yes, you can learn from other people’s mistakes, but the outcome that someone gets from doing something might not be the same as the outcome that you might get from doing the EXACT same thing. There are too many external factors that make up peoples experiences, successes, failures and opinions. And sometimes the WIN you might get it is worth the RISK.

So should you listen to what others SAY? yes, but not everyone…
Should it override how you FEEL about something? Nope.

The best way is to TRY and form your OWN opinions. And WIN, or LEARN…

If I had listened to the people around me or cared what they would think:

I would have not moved to Sydney when I finished school.
I would not have auditioned for Australian Idol back in the day.
I would have not created The Starlettes, The Boutique, The Alternative.
I would have not been an Artist (they told me that I should only be a writer)
I would have given up on RNB.
I would have given up on singing and writing my own songs a long time ago to “get a real job”.
I would not have moved to Mauritius.
I would not have moved to Perth.
I would not be running my own business,
I would not be earning income from living my truth and spreading my message today.

My biggest successes have come from making decisions WITHOUT caring about others opinions.

Because nobody knows my truth like I do.
And finding space to listen to my intuition and backing myself wholeheartedly has made the world of difference to my life.

I AM WHO I WANT TO BE ALL THE TIME NOW.
And with that CERTAINTY and CONFIDENCE comes OPPORTUNITY and SUCCESS.

And I’m here to EMPOWER others to do the same… However it looks like for them.

Let me know if you are READY 👇

I’m done with hiding

HERE’S THE THING. I’M DONE WITH HIDING.

People still say to me – “It wouldn’t kill you to put a little makeup on or brush your hair before you do your videos, Roxy.”

And you know what — it might. It might kill that beautiful idea that my peeps all currently have of me that I’m super proud of: I am authentically, and unapolegitically me. 👊

And when I dont want to dress up for you, I wont.
Because I dont need to hide behind smoke and mirrors to share my message.

And if you are going to reject what I have to say about life, because I didn’t pluck my eyebrows or put on some lipstick then “bye felicia…” my message isn’t for you.👋

I share when I feel like I have something to say and when I have value to give back to my community. And sometimes there’s no time to worry about what it looks like and what people will say about me.

I don’t need to do myself up to feel beautiful and confident. I made that happen from the inside.
I got over myself. Because what I do and how I serve others is ultimately NOT ABOUT ME.

In my life I have learnt from all different kinds of people, from all walks of life, of various cultures and backgrounds, of every age group. I have learnt to listen past the bullshit aesthetic stuff. You know that saying ‘Dont judge a book by its cover….’ Yeh that shit…💯

Because if you limit yourself to only listening to people who look/sound right. Then you are putting a massive cap on your learning.

Everyone has a lesson to teach if you are willing to listen hard enough… And sometimes the best lessons are taught in the most unorthodox ways, by the most unexpected people. ✨

What’s Your Side Hustle?

One of the key points to respecting and honoring our special talents as musicians is to not sell ourselves short or undervalue our gifts.

But it’s sometimes hard to do this when you have bills to pay.
I mean, when you think about it, why would we want to work a day job for $20-30 per hour when we can make on average $300-$500+ per gig?
Once we start getting paid for gigs, we tend to struggle to be able to accept being paid so little per hour elsewhere.

So we take as many gigs as possible, “Ho-ing” out our talents 5-6 nights a week to rely on this for our living expenses. The money’s good, but after a while, performing feels like work (because in this instance it is) and the body suffers.

We get tired, we burn out, and when music is the sole source of income that we rely on to live, we often over do it, lose motivation and set aside our passion projects, like originals, to pursue other music avenues and gigs that pay more now.

I’m not saying that it doesn’t work for everyone –we have some amazingly successful musicians right here in our community. But as it gets increasingly difficult to make money in the industry, some of us fall into the trap that the gig scene and cover band life can be.

DONT TAKE YOUR PASSION AND ALLOW IT TO IMPRISON YOU BY MAKING IT THE ONLY WAY THAT YOU CAN EARN MONEY TO LIVE.

You may not be able to take a break and in the long run it will lead to burn out.

Hold space for passion in your art first and foremost.
Make music and perform because it feels good first, and allow the money to be a bonus.
Put yourself in a position where you can PICK and CHOOSE your gigs.

ENTER SIDE HUSTLE

*** I’m talking about the kind that doesn’t require you to use or pick up your instrument.

Your side hustle should be something that allows you to make enough income to cover your expenses,so that you can pick and choose your music projects and gigs, or TAKE A BREAK when you need to.

Your side hustle SUPPORTS your creativity and allows you to value your gift more and say NO when the conditions are not right for you.
Your side hustle DOES NOT take up all of your time or take you away from your art. (Otherwise it’s not “side”)

And if your side hustle pays more than what you make per hour in music and gigs, you’ve done well. 👏👏👏

My business teaches people how to find the right side hustle for them.

What’s your side hustle??

And if you don’t have one, or are unhappy with what you’ve currently got going, click below to register for a free webinar and allow me help you create something amazing for yourself

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Business beyond babies

HOW I GOT MY GROOVE BACK and started making $500+ commission per sale at home during nap time and between feeding times.

Choosing to be a mum shouldn’t end your career. But having kids and staying home to raise them can be overwhelming at first. But as the strong women we are, we adapt and change and find a way to manage the busy schedules, the sleepless nights, the nappies, the feeds, the school lunches, the tantrums and the demand for extra attention.

My kids are the best thing that ever happened to me. But they are not the ONLY good things that I have created. I love working, I love feeling financially independent, I love achieving goals, I love completing and closing projects and most of all I love talking…TO ADULTS.

When I had my first baby Chance (now 5), I cut back a lot of my hours to be the amazing mum everyone told me that I would be. I loved my baby in a way I have never felt before and I just wanted to be this super mum that I had seen my friends become over the years. But being a full time mum is hard. Not just physically, but it is taxing mentally and emotionally too. I remember someone saying to you that when you have a baby, that baby will become your entire life and you won’t want to do anything else but look after it…. I was like REALLY?? ANYTHING ELSE??

I worked in events, I performed and coached, I managed talent, I produced shows and I traveled the world….AND THEN I DIDN’T. I loved my job. I wanted to be a mum. But I loved my job, you know.. I didn’t want to choose between the two. The struggle was real. What I mean by the struggle was the guilt. At 3 months old, I left my baby to go on tour again, it wasn’t long, but I still felt like an “abandon-er”, failing to live up to the expectations of motherhood place on my by society.

You see, when we first become mums, we have this idea that everything comes naturally and effortlessly, because that is what we are told. And so when you struggle to do things like, settle, breast feed, or keep up with the general things that you would normally do in life (laundry, dishes, household admin, grooming) you sometimes just feel like a failure.

The one thing that made that feeling of under-achievement go away was going back to work. Going back and feeling like I WAS GOOD at something again. When I felt like a bad mum, I at least could be a damn good performer, producer and manager.

I overcame those new mummy blues after talking to enough mums to realise we pretty much all go through the same thing. But what I did not overcome was the need to be MORE that Just MUM.

And that is totally OK. Motherhood is rewarding and brings beautiful purpose in satisfaction in one’s life. And it is enough for some women. BUT IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE ALL THAT WE ARE. And it most certainly doesn’t have to be the only thing that DEFINES us. We can be a mum AND…..well, whatever the F you like.

The trick is setting yourself up to get what you need out of a career/business life and not burn out and die of exhaustion when you add that to the new responsibilities of being a parent. The trick is changing your work to be more EFFICIENT, more FLEXIBLE, more AUTOMATED, so that you can reap the SAME REWARDS for LESS TIME on deck, physically and mentally. We label this ‘Working SMARTER not HARDER’.

Fast-forwarding to the present. I have 2 very active boys. I still love being a mum. I still love working. But I saw the parts in my life that weren’t compatible with my work and I made changes.

I don’t work for anyone anymore. I have started my own business. This allows me to work on my own time. Night events turned into day conferences and meetings so that I’m not a zombie in the morning for school drop offs. There is always time for ME time and my and HUBBY time. I’m still performing, but I’m choosing my gigs wisely….And the BIGGEST shift is being able to leverage modern technology and the internet to do business so that I can work from anywhere, using a phone or a laptop.

WHAT DO I DO?
I COACH online on my phone, usually in my backyard.
I’m a digital marketer, I make commissions by REFERRING products and programs to the people who need them.
I HELP other mums (and people) like me start their own businesses and get their groove back.
I CREATE and INSPIRE others to go after what they are passionate about by setting an example and going first.
I CONNECT and SHARE ideas and energy with like-minded individuals in my beautiful community.

WHO AM I?

I’m Roxy, I’m a MUM AND an Entrepreneur, AND a Performer, AND a Boss AND an Independent and Empowered Woman.

So if you are sitting at home with your babies wanting a little MORE out of life and a little more for YOURSELF, Click below, register for a free webinar and let me HELP YOU get on the path to being a mum AND….✨

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Is it a SCAM??

More and more I see my feed filling up with programs promising to turn you into a millionaire and fast-track you to some glamorous life.  Every entrepreneur wanting you to buy their ‘secret to success’ or ‘millionaire hack’…

A few friends have even signed up and then realised they were being taken for a ride by a scam that was taking money off them and had lured them in with ‘shiny things’.

Most of us have had that experience though.  If you think that you are the only person who signed up for something, and then realised you wasted your money on some garbage, let me confidently reassure you that YOU ARE NOT.

So how do you know whether what you are getting yourself into is legit?

Here’s a few points to think about when deciding:

YOU CAN’T GET SOMETHING (GOOD) FOR NOTHING

You will have to invest TIME or MONEY or BOTH in order to get good results.  Expect to put some time and energy into your business for the most part, at least at the beginning anyway.

LOOK FOR A GUARANTEE

A company who believes in their own products and services will always offer and trial and/or money back guarantee.

Look at the people involved:

Who are they?

What kind of people are they?

Are they just like you?

Are they the kind of people you can be friends with in the real world?

Are they genuine?  

Do you feel aligned with their ideas?

Remember, most people walk away from a job/business because of issues with their coworkers not issues with the money so be aware of the community you are exposing yourself to when starting a new opportunity.

TRANSPARENCY

Is there an open discussion around what the opportunity is about?

Now we don’t need a company to reveal all the details of their strategies and give away secrets, but they should at least be forthcoming with where they stand and what they do in the business/online space, Whether that be

NW marketing

Digital marketing

Alternate currencies

Surveys or Education etc…

Before you spend your money, make the effort to at least understand what type of service or product you are investing in.

EDUCATE YOURSELF

If you want to know how to do something, find someone who has ALREADY done that thing and ask them to TEACH you or point you in the right direction to LEARN.

Like, if you want to be a better singer, find one of the best singers you know and ask them how they became skilled.  (I can help you with this by the way)

And if you want to be a millionaire, go and learn from millionaires. (I can also help you with this one).

NOTHING IS EVER DONE WELL WITHOUT EDUCATION.  But you also need to know WHERE to find the RIGHT education.  And most of the best education today, takes place OUTSIDE of School and Uni.

People are doing amazing things online and earning some incredible $$$, AND retaining their time freedom whilst doing it.

The difference between THEM and YOU is that they have put in the time to LEARN from the right people and IMPLEMENT at the right time.

Are you ready to educate yourself?

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