One of the key points to respecting and honoring our special talents as musicians is to not sell ourselves short or undervalue our gifts.
But it’s sometimes hard to do this when you have bills to pay.
I mean, when you think about it, why would we want to work a day job for $20-30 per hour when we can make on average $300-$500+ per gig?
Once we start getting paid for gigs, we tend to struggle to be able to accept being paid so little per hour elsewhere.
So we take as many gigs as possible, “Ho-ing” out our talents 5-6 nights a week to rely on this for our living expenses. The money’s good, but after a while, performing feels like work (because in this instance it is) and the body suffers.
We get tired, we burn out, and when music is the sole source of income that we rely on to live, we often over do it, lose motivation and set aside our passion projects, like originals, to pursue other music avenues and gigs that pay more now.
I’m not saying that it doesn’t work for everyone –we have some amazingly successful musicians right here in our community. But as it gets increasingly difficult to make money in the industry, some of us fall into the trap that the gig scene and cover band life can be.
DONT TAKE YOUR PASSION AND ALLOW IT TO IMPRISON YOU BY MAKING IT THE ONLY WAY THAT YOU CAN EARN MONEY TO LIVE.
You may not be able to take a break and in the long run it will lead to burn out.
Hold space for passion in your art first and foremost.
Make music and perform because it feels good first, and allow the money to be a bonus.
Put yourself in a position where you can PICK and CHOOSE your gigs.
ENTER SIDE HUSTLE
*** I’m talking about the kind that doesn’t require you to use or pick up your instrument.
Your side hustle should be something that allows you to make enough income to cover your expenses,so that you can pick and choose your music projects and gigs, or TAKE A BREAK when you need to.
Your side hustle SUPPORTS your creativity and allows you to value your gift more and say NO when the conditions are not right for you.
Your side hustle DOES NOT take up all of your time or take you away from your art. (Otherwise it’s not “side”)
And if your side hustle pays more than what you make per hour in music and gigs, you’ve done well. 👏👏👏
My business teaches people how to find the right side hustle for them.
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People only treat you the way you allow them to.
We’ve all had a time when we’ve invested our energy into the wrong person or situation or have come to realize someone close was not who they appeared to be. The eye opening moment when someone shows their real colours can be a disappointing, hurtful and enraging one. And when it happens to us and we are scarred, it’s easy to put up a wall and withdraw away from others in hopes to avoid reoccurring disappointment. But shutting out people isnt the right answer. Rather, we must draw clearer lines in the sand in relation to how we want to be treated and what our expectation of others are.
Some people are just shit.
Seeing the good in everyone and giving the benefit of the doubt often leaves me open to being used. And sometimes it doesn’t matter how well you treat someone or how much you try to help them, or do good in the world, people will still hate on you, talk shit or see something you are doing wrong. Shit people, who only think about themselves and project all of their negative crap onto you.
I’ve learnt that people often accuse you of the very thing that they are capable of doing. Those who accuse of stealing have stolen before. Those who accuse of cheating have cheated before and so on. So when it happens, I don’t tolerate it anymore. Part of being grown is dictating to the world your expectation and deciding who gets to be a part of that world.
Good people deserve good people.
If you live your life trying to be the best version of yourself and to help those around you then you deserve the same in return. Period. Unfortunately, sometimes in this world, nice guys (and ladies) finish last. And it seems that the bullshit artists, haters, vultures and cheaters land on top. In my opinion, it is partially the fault of the ‘nice’. Often the ‘nice’ are enablers. Often the nice are submissive. Often the nice are apathetic.
More and more with the breaking down of the worlds social skills and conscience, ironically at the fault advancement of technology & ‘social’ media, there is a lot of grey around what behavior is deemed appropriate. So we must start setting clearer boundaries and not assume that ‘people should know where that line is’. If you draw an invisible line you can be sure some will cross it, even unintentionally. So when someone does something that doesn’t sit right with you, tell them.
It’s all in the delivery.
When someone crosses that line, you don’t always have to fly off the handle and get all up their face aggressively. A lot of the time these people don’t realize that they have crossed into the ‘red zone’. Always approach gently but firm, until you have a good read on the situation. If you can see that this person is deliberately acting inappropriately or is purposely using your calm, non-confrontational nature to get away with doing wrong by you then its time to push a bit harder (or go to war depending on the situation lol). Sometimes when you explain things precisely, logically, nicely to someone, they genuinely understand and care enough to stop doing the wrong thing. Then again, some people need a punch to the head (or the equivalent in words) to get it – to get back to their side of the line.
In plain english
I guess what I’m trying to say is: If I’m trying to help you and you go around talking shit about me behind my back, and telling everyone that I’m dodgy, don’t expect me not to say anything to you next time I see you. Don’t expect me to keep helping you, and don’t expect me to act like we all good. Because if I allow it to happen once, then what goes to say you wont continue to do those things in the future? And if you can’t see the good in me, then you probably don’t have much good in you, so not having you around is not going to be much of a loss. Also time does not heal wounds, conversations and resolutions do
Stay real Xx
We forget sometimes how important it is to upkeep our friendships and relationships with others. Life can be overwhelmingly busy and we can often get too wrapped up in work, earning money, problem solving and passion projects. It can be easy to forget friends and loved ones who are ‘low maintenance’ and ‘understanding of our busy schedules’. But it shouldn’t be the norm.
Never having time for your friends and family is a no go. Having extended periods of time without up-keep on these relationships makes for your being a very lonely person in the end. And it doesn’t matter how ‘cool with it’ you think your friend or partner is.
At some point you are showing them where you have placed them in your life, on a ladder of priority. If your family sits down the ladder at 100th or even 50th place on that priority scale, way behind work, stress, bills, mortgage, networking associates and leads, then how can you argue that you work so hard to provide for them and make them happy?
Happiness is not measured by the amount in your bank account or the amount of possessions and assets you own. You can still be happy when you have nothing. But when you have no-one, ‘Happy’ gets significantly more difficult.
Mostly, what your real family and friends desire to have is your attention, your company and your presence, both physical and emotional. Sometimes we must stop thinking about ourselves being ATMs and Workhorses enough to understand the more important things in life.
It doesn’t take much time to send a text, email, message, to make a phone call even. You may think that you have zero time. But you always have time because simply put, what could possibly be more important? What is your life without them? If you are really struggling to keep up with relationship maintenance schedule it. Schedule it like you do your lunch, or a meeting. Put it in the calendar : 6-7pm cuddles with kids, 3-4pm returning social messages, 130-2pm phone call to mum 8-10pm No screen time (turn off phones, Ipads etc and spend time with the people around you). Treat it like any other work task of the day, because it is just as important.
Balancing career, family, friends and personal development isn’t an easy thing to do. But it’s not impossible if you believe in the importance of it. Remember that if you dedicate all your time to success & riches, you might end up there…alone. Just a little effort here and there will definitely go along way with you loved ones, and ensure they still feel loved 🙂