That’s me…

That’s me. On The Voice Australia. Taking big leaps to resolve issues I have been carrying for a long time.

In 2005 I was a contestant on Australian Idol, which led to some amazing experiences in my music career. I was young. I was unprepared back then for the ‘big bad entertainment industry.’
And I was swept up in a whirlwind, propelled forward and in this process, I lost myself.

I lost my control over my dream. Everything on the outside was perfect. I was living my dream life. But I struggled on the inside. I struggled with an incredible amount of self doubt. I felt undeserving, I felt like a fraud. And it was in big part, my fault.

I didn’t know what I wanted, so I allowed the people around me to create it. I let others make decisions that would determine my future so that I didn’t need to feel accountable, and I did not speak about my vision, my values and my heart.

My soul suffered from my own sense of (lack of) self-worth.

It lasted a long time and there was even a long time that I refused to write and record my own stuff.

But I’ve been on this journey to empower myself and re-write my history. And to help others to do the same. Because you are only worth what you think you are.

This was the scariest thing that I have done in a long time.

I’m older, I’m heavier, I’m a mum now and I don’t have as much energy as I had when I was 20. All things that would have held me back before. But it’s time to let it all go.

Did I turn chairs? Yep. All 4. But this moment wasn’t necessarily about that. It was about showing up in my truth and pouring out my soul to the world. And allowing people to finally see me, as I am, and being ok with people not connecting with it.

Because somewhere in the world, I would have connected with someone just like me. Someone who needed to hear my story and my message. A message that I will continue to put front and centre of my journey:

That there is only one YOU. So show that to the world, and find people who resonate with it.

That YOU are ultimately in control of your story – Don’t give that power to anyone.

That dreams are meant for chasing, and there is no time limit on them.

And mostly, THAT YOU ARE ENOUGH..

Go get it…

Roxy Xx

What will you do differently in 2020?

It’s that time of the year when a lot of us are reflecting on what we achieved, and what we lost or fell short on, in hopes to pull some intentions and goals together for the coming new year.

Setting intentions is one thing…but the challenge is always the FOLLOW THROUGH.

You can read about change, talk about change, watch videos about change, learn about change, but until you IMPLEMENT CHANGE…nothing will change.. Get it?🤔

So WHAT WILL YOU DO DIFFERENTLY THIS TIME?

I asked myself this at the beginning of 2019.
And then went on to have a year of massive GROWTH. 🙌🙌🙌

I have expanded my skillset,
I have confronted so many past issues,
Removed blocks that were holding me back
and have really taken control of the direction of my life.

This year I IMPLEMENTED the things that I already knew would help, and I learnt about WHAT ELSE I could do from the happiest and most successful people that I could find.

But the MAIN THING that I did that was different:

I placed myself in a community that would hold me ACCOUNTABLE for getting my shit together.

Coaches, business gurus, healers, successful entrepreneurs, teachers, mentors and go-getters who have become my friends and personal cheerleaders,
who have picked me up when I wanted to give in,
who have pushed me forward when I was fearful,
who constantly reminded me of my WORTH and STRENGTH
and who have both reflected on my failures, and celebrated my wins.

I’M SO FUCKING GRATEFUL FOR THIS…🙏

I feel amazing because of this.
Business is great because of this.
My family is thriving because of this.
And 2020 is going to be massively positive for me because of this.

And so friends,
If you are wondering what it’s gonna take,
if you are up to making REAL PROGRESS and change,
to experience real personal GROWTH and FULFILMENT,
to smash through goals and just DO BETTER for yourself,
REACH OUT and let me introduce you to the space I found.

LET ME HELP YOU GET IT TOGETHER.

Because everybody deserves to have a better 2020.
Including YOU.
And I would be delighted to be a part of your journey. Especially if you have been sitting back and watching mine this year.

DON’T WAIT.
Let’s get started on making next year the beginning of your BEST.

IT’S TIME TO FLY HIGH MY FRIENDS ✈️

What about next year?

I’m already thinking about next year, are you?

 

There is only 30 days left till 2020 and I’m so excited to be doing more of ME in the new year.

If you have been following, I’ve been rattling on a lot about the new direction of my coaching and my work this year.

It’s been an incredible journey of discovering and redefining myself and showing my full potential to the world.

✨Sometimes we forget who we ARE. And we become what we DO. ✨

Singing is not who I am, it’s just one of the things that I do… And this year has been about leading with MYSELF rather than my TALENTS so that I can find people who align with me first… 

Because I no longer want to work with just anybody. I want to work with people who GET ME and vice versa. 

But in order to find those people, I need to share more about who I am rather than what I do. I had it backwards for a very long time 🤦‍♀️

It actually works with every business or brand too. 

People buy from businesses and brands that they like and relate to. So you need only to work on finding who those people are for you… (hint – It really helps when you know and accept who you are first)

When YOU are the thing people attach to then you create a loyal network that trust you enough to move with you when you decide to change direction or offer a new product or service. 

These people see you for who you are rather than what you do…. And that is GOLD. 

But back to me and next year. 

I’m still singing.

I‘m still making music. 

I’m still vocal coaching /producing

I’m still being a mum and wifey and daughter.

But I’m also supporting creatives to realise their full potential as artists. 

I’m also helping people get their businesses going.

I’m also making sure my friends don’t ever feel alone.

I’m also promoting wellness and health and personal development.

I’m also coaching people how to monetise who they are rather than what they do…

And it’s hella satisfying. 

And next year I’ll be doing a lot more of it.

And if you are feeling me then I’d love to be working with you too.

 

Let’s talk about it…

Roxy Xx

IT’S ALL IN YOUR HEAD

I have been working with creative people for over 15 years now and one thing that I find quite common is the lack of boundaries when it comes to helping others and putting other people’s projects in front of our own.

I completely get it. I’ve been ‘that guy’. So many of us feel like we lack support and confidence for getting our own projects out there. Because meaningful music and art represents us, our personal emotions and feelings, and sometimes putting out an original into the world feels like standing bare naked on stage in front of a room of your peers, amongst others. So we avoid our own projects like the plague. 🏃‍♀️

It’s so funny how the ones we are afraid to be judged by are our fellow creatives. But it doesn’t surprise me. Because as creatives we are also the first to judge other peoples art — and that is just standard projection behaviour.

Imagine you could detach from the reactions of others to your music or art. Imagine a world where you actually didn’t get so caught up in what everyone will think. Imagine that you could determine your success through what it actually felt like to create something, rather than how it is received by others, or how much income it generates for you.

How much better of a creator would you be? How much more honest would your art be?

The thing is, IT’S ALL IN YOUR HEAD… you can actually CHOOSE that stuff, or not… But you have to WORK at it.

Come check out The Artist Mindset Online Program I’m rolling out in November. Limited spots so secure yours today.🔗👇

Change your mindset, drop the hang ups and become a BETTER creator — the universe will sort out the rest 

https://thealternativenow.com/programs/the-artist-mindset-2/

 

 

 

It’s Time To Take Action

HOW YOU BEGIN something always has a massive impact on how that thing pans out.
When starting a new project or business you’ll want to have the best possible chance you can get for it to succeed.. And our best chances often come with knowledge and support.

When I started my business I was gifted an awesome mentorship that allowed me to accelerate my learning and gave me daily access to some of the best in the online biz, to make sure I came into the space confidently and with all the tools that I needed to see results QUICKLY..

Hands down, I have never felt so supported in my life. It was a deep dive into
Inner work,
Business and Money Mindset,
Self Confidence and Self Worth,
Alignment and Manifestation
packaged so neatly with the tricks of the trade of how to make my business function Autonomously, with Ease and Flow and Maximise my earnings 💰💰💰

Our community is offering this mentorship again for anyone who wants to start their business in the coming weeks.
So I’m calling in all those of you
who need a change,
who feel stuck in a situation,
who feel undervalued in their jobs, who are tired of little return for long hours
and who want to LEVEL UP in all areas of life.

I WANT TO HELP YOU CREATE SOMETHING AMAZING 🙌🙌

And seriously, you DON’T want to miss this incredible opportunity.

We have creatives, mums, dads, influencers, lightworkers, coaches, couples, health professionals, freelancers, grandparents and young entrepreneurs coming into this space and KILLING IT!! Some people who only ever really knew how to post on fb proving that EVERYONE can be coachable and can create SUCCESS for themselves in this mad side hustle.

The ONE thing we all have in common is we kept an open mind and jumped in to learn and implement something new… And now the benefits of that are coming back fast. 🤸‍♀️

If you have been watching me, my transformation, this space, are loving what you are seeing, and curious to learn more, be sure to reach out and grab a spot in our next webinar by clicking below.

We are changing people’s lives one at a time, to expand our beautiful community.
And it’s YOUR TURN to step up and step in. ✨

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What’s Your Side Hustle?

One of the key points to respecting and honoring our special talents as musicians is to not sell ourselves short or undervalue our gifts.

But it’s sometimes hard to do this when you have bills to pay.
I mean, when you think about it, why would we want to work a day job for $20-30 per hour when we can make on average $300-$500+ per gig?
Once we start getting paid for gigs, we tend to struggle to be able to accept being paid so little per hour elsewhere.

So we take as many gigs as possible, “Ho-ing” out our talents 5-6 nights a week to rely on this for our living expenses. The money’s good, but after a while, performing feels like work (because in this instance it is) and the body suffers.

We get tired, we burn out, and when music is the sole source of income that we rely on to live, we often over do it, lose motivation and set aside our passion projects, like originals, to pursue other music avenues and gigs that pay more now.

I’m not saying that it doesn’t work for everyone –we have some amazingly successful musicians right here in our community. But as it gets increasingly difficult to make money in the industry, some of us fall into the trap that the gig scene and cover band life can be.

DONT TAKE YOUR PASSION AND ALLOW IT TO IMPRISON YOU BY MAKING IT THE ONLY WAY THAT YOU CAN EARN MONEY TO LIVE.

You may not be able to take a break and in the long run it will lead to burn out.

Hold space for passion in your art first and foremost.
Make music and perform because it feels good first, and allow the money to be a bonus.
Put yourself in a position where you can PICK and CHOOSE your gigs.

ENTER SIDE HUSTLE

*** I’m talking about the kind that doesn’t require you to use or pick up your instrument.

Your side hustle should be something that allows you to make enough income to cover your expenses,so that you can pick and choose your music projects and gigs, or TAKE A BREAK when you need to.

Your side hustle SUPPORTS your creativity and allows you to value your gift more and say NO when the conditions are not right for you.
Your side hustle DOES NOT take up all of your time or take you away from your art. (Otherwise it’s not “side”)

And if your side hustle pays more than what you make per hour in music and gigs, you’ve done well. 👏👏👏

My business teaches people how to find the right side hustle for them.

What’s your side hustle??

And if you don’t have one, or are unhappy with what you’ve currently got going, click below to register for a free webinar and allow me help you create something amazing for yourself

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Is it a SCAM??

More and more I see my feed filling up with programs promising to turn you into a millionaire and fast-track you to some glamorous life.  Every entrepreneur wanting you to buy their ‘secret to success’ or ‘millionaire hack’…

A few friends have even signed up and then realised they were being taken for a ride by a scam that was taking money off them and had lured them in with ‘shiny things’.

Most of us have had that experience though.  If you think that you are the only person who signed up for something, and then realised you wasted your money on some garbage, let me confidently reassure you that YOU ARE NOT.

So how do you know whether what you are getting yourself into is legit?

Here’s a few points to think about when deciding:

YOU CAN’T GET SOMETHING (GOOD) FOR NOTHING

You will have to invest TIME or MONEY or BOTH in order to get good results.  Expect to put some time and energy into your business for the most part, at least at the beginning anyway.

LOOK FOR A GUARANTEE

A company who believes in their own products and services will always offer and trial and/or money back guarantee.

Look at the people involved:

Who are they?

What kind of people are they?

Are they just like you?

Are they the kind of people you can be friends with in the real world?

Are they genuine?  

Do you feel aligned with their ideas?

Remember, most people walk away from a job/business because of issues with their coworkers not issues with the money so be aware of the community you are exposing yourself to when starting a new opportunity.

TRANSPARENCY

Is there an open discussion around what the opportunity is about?

Now we don’t need a company to reveal all the details of their strategies and give away secrets, but they should at least be forthcoming with where they stand and what they do in the business/online space, Whether that be

NW marketing

Digital marketing

Alternate currencies

Surveys or Education etc…

Before you spend your money, make the effort to at least understand what type of service or product you are investing in.

EDUCATE YOURSELF

If you want to know how to do something, find someone who has ALREADY done that thing and ask them to TEACH you or point you in the right direction to LEARN.

Like, if you want to be a better singer, find one of the best singers you know and ask them how they became skilled.  (I can help you with this by the way)

And if you want to be a millionaire, go and learn from millionaires. (I can also help you with this one).

NOTHING IS EVER DONE WELL WITHOUT EDUCATION.  But you also need to know WHERE to find the RIGHT education.  And most of the best education today, takes place OUTSIDE of School and Uni.

People are doing amazing things online and earning some incredible $$$, AND retaining their time freedom whilst doing it.

The difference between THEM and YOU is that they have put in the time to LEARN from the right people and IMPLEMENT at the right time.

Are you ready to educate yourself?

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WHAT HAVE YOU GOT TO LOSE?

IT TOOK ME 3 MONTHS of watching my girlfriend online before I reached out to ask her what she was doing.

In that 3 months I saw the most amazing transformation in her. She went from being a tired and worn out NW marketer, who was always hustling and constantly having to chase people and hard sell them for very little money in return, to this amazing confident leader, loving life, travelling and living across 3 continents in the space of 6 months, GLOWING and grateful for her new online business.

Naturally I was curious so I asked her what it was all about and she said that she had found a new online business opportunity that allowed her to grow and focus on being the best of herself. One that through automation, allowed her the FREEDOM to work and spend the time on the things and people that she wanted to. And one that made her the same amount of money in 3 months that she would make in a YEAR in her previous NW marketing job.

She asked me if I wanted to check it out. I watched a webinar, but I was a skeptic. It just seemed too good to be true! Surely no-one makes that kind of money that fast without something shifty going on right? There must be something else I was missing. I knew nothing about working online. I didn’t even know that these particular opportunities existed.

But here she was, my girl, who I had known for 10 years, LIVING PROOF.
Showing me that it was REAL,
Showing me that it was POSSIBLE,
Guiding me every step of the way and
Ready to believe that I could be SUCCESSFUL too.

All I needed to do was to trust ME. And jump in. And so that’s what I did.

Fast forward a few months and here I am:
100% more CONFIDENT
100% more FOCUSED
100% more PRESENT in my own life
100% KNOWING of my worth and power.

And the money situation?
Let’s just say I’m not worried about bills and not having work or not being able to look after my family financially anymore.

– IT ALL MAKES SENSE NOW –
The bump up in cash flow is because making $600-1200 in commissions from 1 sale is so much better than making $20. And both sales pretty much take the SAME amount of work. And TBH I never really have to sell anything directly to anyone.
The rest of it is all about me and how I show up, how I inspire and share beautiful knowledge and energy with others.

Friends, I have NEVER seen anything like this before and I’m so ready to share it with YOU. My online community are launching a new business opportunity via a live webinar and I’m inviting all of you to come and check it out. For FREE.
Just click below and I will send you the link.

WHAT HAVE YOU GOT TO LOSE?

I watched my girlfriend for 3 months before I jumped in, and my only regret was that I didn’t start this earlier and I wasted so much time settling for less.

Today I’m so grateful for her and this opportunity Xx

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Does fear of unpopularity hold us back from speaking our truths?

For a month now I have been tossing up ideas in my head to blog about, and then shutting them down based on how they may reflect on myself and my career or image as an artist or a writer, because some how, the world seems to have descended into a huge popularity contest, where if your opinion does not fit in with the status quo then frankly you better keep your mouth shut or face being criticized, trolled, boycotted or worse. I’ve heard so many stories about people getting persecuted over shit that they have said not just recently, but 20, 30, 40 years ago. Some of those things which had already been brought to light, resolved and apologised for, coming back for yet another bite in the ass.

I don’t know about you, but I’m definitely not the same person I was 20 years ago. To be honest I don’t even think that I’m the same person that I was last week. Life is such that we are constantly evolving as human beings and our ability to learn creates opportunity to change our thoughts and feelings over time. At one stage we were all ignorant. And then we experienced, we researched, we learnt and we changed – for better or worse, however, the shift in thought still occurred. So when I think about people these days, digging up old words and opinions of someone in order to push some kind of take down operation, I can’t help but wonder if the situation is unjust.

Must we start censoring ourselves in order for us not to be targeted in the future?

Because sometimes that’s what I find myself doing. ‘Oh I shouldn’t write that because people will get offended, or take it the wrong way or hold it against me later’

So what does this say about freedom of speech and expression today? Do we value popularity more than truth? If everyone shares the same hesitation I do sometimes, then the world might forever be led by those who can speak the loudest, rather than those who are right…. And that is a very scary world to live in.

So what do we do then?

Well we ‘grow some balls’, voice our opinions and stand by them, but also give opportunity for people to challenge and convince us otherwise. The second part of that sentence is where I think people struggle the most. People should be able to say what ever they damn well want. And we DO NOT need to agree with them. And that is OK.

This simple concept seems to be so difficult many to grasp. Words are words and we should be able to express them freely. It is only when you ACT on an idea and cause harm to others that you should rightly dealt with. And I’m not talking about ‘hurting people’s feelings’ kinda harm here. We need to learn how to agree to disagree. If you have a different opinion to me, I should be able to hear and acknowledge that opinion, but I also should have the right to think that you are a fuckwit and disagree with you. And vice versa. I mean when did we all get so ‘soft’ anyway?

The reality is, if you do not let people express through speech and language, then their natural progression is to ACT in order to be noticed. And this is much more dangerous cause ‘sticks and stones’ and all.

Every human feels the need to be heard and we should not be so quick to silence opinions that are different or challenging to us. Rather, we must learn to debate, communicate and understand each other, even when we don’t agree. And most importantly we must believe that we have the power to convince others, to change and to evolve our thoughts and ideas. Otherwise what hope do we have to live together peacefully?

We should not be scared to voice our opinions regardless of how unpopular they may be, and we should not try to smother the voice of others. Censorship and oppression are never the answer. It is amazing to see so many ‘free speech’ advocates actively trying to silence their opposition.

I don’t want to live in a world where I have to Censor myself on the most basic level ‘just in case’.

I’m human and creative and I live to express.

Express Yourself

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Thank god for creative expression.

These few weeks have been challenging on my heart and I’m so thankful that I know how to channel the negative energy, anger and frustration into my music, using those emotions to sing the shit out of songs on stage.  And after I release this storm of emotions, I’m calm and clear headed again.  It wasn’t an easy transformation to being an emotive performer, but now that I’m here, theres no turning back, not even half way.  Singing through my anxiety, pain, anger, joy and happiness is a tool that now I simply could not live without.

I think about people who don’t have an outlet to express.  What must that be like?  Like a soda bottle of emotions fizzing up and ready to explode but the lid screwed on tight.  It just can’t be healthy for us to hold in our emotions like that.  It would manifest poison into the body which would bleed into every aspect of our live.

So if you haven’t found your outlet yet, start looking today.  Music, art, crafts, writing, exercising, meditating, dancing, whatever it is, you NEED something.  Negative energy is not worth holding on to.  And people who serve that up to you need to be let go.  Distance yourself from the poison and you will live a happier life.

Unfortunately sometimes in order to do that we have to distance ourselves from people we love.  And that is one of the hardest things in life.

I’m so grateful for the ability to express.

If you don’t know how to, seek help..

Roxy Xx