But what will they say…

When I stopped worrying about what other people would think about me, my opportunities quadrupled and my income tripled.

It’s so amazing how we so willingly accept other people’s opinion and judgement as our truths.

Nobody knows you more than YOU.
Nobody gets to decide your intention when doing something but YOU.
Nobody lives through your story and decisions more than YOU.

But it’s easy to surrender responsibility to others.

I get it. That was me. Always asking advice from my friends (even on the smallest things), Always hesitating do put myself out there because: What would people think? What would people say? How will this decision be perceived?

Always needing someone to validate my actions. TO VALIDATE ME.

What I didn’t realise for a long time is that I allowed others to control and design MY LIFE because of this. People form opinions based on their personal experiences and HISTORY. And everyone’s story and experiences are unique even though some may seem the same.

Which means that yes, you can learn from other people’s mistakes, but the outcome that someone gets from doing something might not be the same as the outcome that you might get from doing the EXACT same thing. There are too many external factors that make up peoples experiences, successes, failures and opinions. And sometimes the WIN you might get it is worth the RISK.

So should you listen to what others SAY? yes, but not everyone…
Should it override how you FEEL about something? Nope.

The best way is to TRY and form your OWN opinions. And WIN, or LEARN…

If I had listened to the people around me or cared what they would think:

I would have not moved to Sydney when I finished school.
I would not have auditioned for Australian Idol back in the day.
I would have not created The Starlettes, The Boutique, The Alternative.
I would have not been an Artist (they told me that I should only be a writer)
I would have given up on RNB.
I would have given up on singing and writing my own songs a long time ago to “get a real job”.
I would not have moved to Mauritius.
I would not have moved to Perth.
I would not be running my own business,
I would not be earning income from living my truth and spreading my message today.

My biggest successes have come from making decisions WITHOUT caring about others opinions.

Because nobody knows my truth like I do.
And finding space to listen to my intuition and backing myself wholeheartedly has made the world of difference to my life.

I AM WHO I WANT TO BE ALL THE TIME NOW.
And with that CERTAINTY and CONFIDENCE comes OPPORTUNITY and SUCCESS.

And I’m here to EMPOWER others to do the same… However it looks like for them.

Let me know if you are READY 👇

Express Yourself

Roxy Live

Thank god for creative expression.

These few weeks have been challenging on my heart and I’m so thankful that I know how to channel the negative energy, anger and frustration into my music, using those emotions to sing the shit out of songs on stage.  And after I release this storm of emotions, I’m calm and clear headed again.  It wasn’t an easy transformation to being an emotive performer, but now that I’m here, theres no turning back, not even half way.  Singing through my anxiety, pain, anger, joy and happiness is a tool that now I simply could not live without.

I think about people who don’t have an outlet to express.  What must that be like?  Like a soda bottle of emotions fizzing up and ready to explode but the lid screwed on tight.  It just can’t be healthy for us to hold in our emotions like that.  It would manifest poison into the body which would bleed into every aspect of our live.

So if you haven’t found your outlet yet, start looking today.  Music, art, crafts, writing, exercising, meditating, dancing, whatever it is, you NEED something.  Negative energy is not worth holding on to.  And people who serve that up to you need to be let go.  Distance yourself from the poison and you will live a happier life.

Unfortunately sometimes in order to do that we have to distance ourselves from people we love.  And that is one of the hardest things in life.

I’m so grateful for the ability to express.

If you don’t know how to, seek help..

Roxy Xx