My Art Not Yours

 

Everyone who deals with creatives should read this.

Let me just put this out there:  Like many creatives in this world, I have a problem with authority.  I simply don’t like being told what to do, it makes me feel oppressed.  But evermore annoying are people who try to fuck with my art.  I’m a performer, singer, songwriter and artist and have been for the most part of my life and I still have people who have no idea about being a muso/creative trying to tell me how I should live my life, that I should get a real job or that I should change my art.

ITS MINE NOT YOURS. Its Art.  I couldn’t give a fuck about whether you like it or not.  I LIKE IT. That’s why I do it.  The more I evolve as an artist, the more I realise that it cannot be about making money or trying to please everybody.  It doesn’t matter how good you are, there is always going to be somebody that wont like you or understand your vibe.  And the more defined you are, the less people you will appeal to.  And that’s totally OK.

Don’t get me wrong.  I like feedback on projects that I’m working on, and I regularly ask this from my peers, mentors and trusted peeps and sometimes fans, but that is when it is in its building, and creating process.  If I’ve already released my single and done the photos and printed out 100 000 copies and sold a bunch – you’ve kinda missed the boat on helping me arrange the vocals etc… at this point you either like it or you don’t.  I’m fine with that.  And if you start a sentence with “You know you would make more money if you….”  I might punch you in the face (or at least tune you out for the next few phrases).

Of course I would like to make more money from my art.  But not if it means selling out and compromising the very thing that makes me feel good about it.  It is already difficult to have a good balance between business & creative passion, So if you like my stuff and want to help by sharing it with others than awesome. And if it’s not for you, I understand.

This also goes with my live band/s.  If you saw me somewhere with my band and you like what we do.  Don’t book us then ask us to do something completely different.  If you saw my Rnb band and you loved it, don’t book us for your wedding and ask if we can play rock and roll and love shack and heavy metal all night.  The answer is no.  Even if we could, its not what we have chosen to do as an outfit.  A few requests will always be fine but when you are micro-managing our set list, we probably won’t enjoy our night.

Real art and music is personal and takes a lot of courage to share with others.  And we creatives are sensitive as fuck.  So when you give feed back, be gentle and detailed and helpful, not dismissive, authoritative and vague.  And choose your timing wisely.

And yes, I know I should “Get a website, get social media and get more followers’.  Don’t just tell me about it…help me.

To the creatives out there, I’m sure I’ve hit home with this for some of you, I’d love to know what are your other pet peeves when it comes to this stuff?  Feel free to comment below 🙂

 

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Opportunity Knocks…But are you even home?

There’s always a way to turn your life around.  We are always only one decision away from changing our lives.

Sometimes we find ourselves in a rut.  And the world doesn’t favour our best interests. World best seller book ‘The Secret’ tells us that we can manifest our destiny by thinking about how it would feel to have certain things.  So I spent hours with my head down concentrating on that mansion at the sea and a massive bank balance but alas! My millions haven’t arrived yet.

Then I thought, what am I actively doing to help my situation?  How much effort am I actually putting in to make things work?  To make my life better? When opportunity knocks, Am I ready and waiting to invite it in? Am I even home? Do I even hear that doorbell?

If you are too busy for change and for yourself, then you are basically telling the universe to come back later. We can’t just pray/ask for something good, and then when it arrives (even the smallest hint), ignore and put in on the ‘back-burner’.  If our heads are too far in the clouds (or deep in paperwork, spreadsheets, bills, stress),  we give up the ability to see the small steps to change and opportunity.

For example, If you want to quit your job and start working for yourself.  And then some one gives you an opportunity to jump in on a free online course about starting a small business, and you can’t do it because you have too much work to get done… You’ve pretty much shut the door on the very opportunity you asked for in the first place.  You’ve told the universe “umm…actually…no I really don’t want that”.

Commitment to your goals and committing your energy to something is what will make it grow.  So if you commit your energy to hating your job, that hate will grow too.  But if you commit your energy into finding a way to make money from something you love to do, opportunities will keep presenting themselves until you find the right one.  But you have to look to find and you have to be conscious about your goals.

If you don’t know where you are going, how are you going to get there?

The first step is to work out where you would like to be, and how you would like to feel.  And Write that shit down!.  List a few goals.  They do not need to be set in concrete, they will most certainly change and evolve as you do.

The next step is to do a bit of research.  On the net, in person, in books.  What are other people doing?  What’s available to me? Who do I know that can help?  What are my strengths and passions and how could they be turned into a project?  You can have a million ideas and it’s totally ok to research all of them.  Vocalise your goals to other people, tell everyone around you.  You’ll keep reminding yourself of where you are going and someone might know someone who may be able to help you in some way. Actively looking, researching, working on and talking about goals sends a message to the universe that you are serious about change.  It is committing your energy a 1000 times more than just thinking about it.

When the opportunities come, however small, make sure you are available to recognise them.  Make sure you are ready to take them on, make sure you have the ability to commit to the change you asked for.

Side note,  I’ve been chatting to some people to help them find purpose and work out what they are passionate about and how they can create more opportunities for themselves and start investing energy inward.  We bounce business ideas, share tips and work it all out together.  If you need some support with making a positive change.  Please feel free to get in contact with me.

Your comments are very welcome…

Happy Friday Everyone 🙂

 

RoxySIGNoff

Workaholic

good job TA

I’m a self-confessed workaholic.  I enjoy and love my job so much, like being busy, like meeting people, like the fast-paced industry, love being a boss…until I dont.  Being creative and sharing good energy can be exhausting (alongside, running a business, being a mum and wifey) and sometimes I forget that I need to stop for a bit. Stop talking, Stop singing, Stop thinking and sit the F@#K down. The soul needs time to refresh and breathe. We can’t hear what our body is telling us if we are constantly talking over it.  It doesn’t matter how much fun your work is. If you can’t walk away to do something else long enough to miss it, you will burn out quickly and lose passion…Balance is everything.

Work hard…for the right things

passion

Being in control of your own time, work schedule, creative direction and destiny doesn’t necessarily mean that you work less.  It means that you care a whole lot more about whether you are succeeding and that you find a lot more satisfaction in achieving those personal goals.  I love my job so much that I have to watch myself to not become a workaholic!!  Balance is key.  There must also be time for family, for play, for rest and for fun.

 

What’s The Alternative?

 

 

 

I was born in one of the most musical families I’ve ever known.  My father is a singer, my mother a dancer, my grandfather a pioneer of Mauritian folk music, my cousins having great success as artists and songwriters, my partner, my uncles, my sisters and brothers, all talented singers, dancers, musicians and engineers.  My family is living proof that you carve out a successful career for yourself using art and yet I still was brought up with the idea that music and art is a hobby, a part time and not a real job, and that I should always have a backup plan.

Inconsistent with the reality of the successful and happy people I saw around me, I was told this at school, I was told this at work, I was told by the media, I was told even by some of the people that I was working with and considered as mentors. I’ve heard ‘It’s so hard to make riches from the arts, choose something else’ so many times growing up…But what if I was chasing happiness? What if the money just came as a bonus to being happy..  It’s taken great effort to accept myself as the creative being that I am, and to silence the little voice inside of me, that little, unnerving and confusing voice that says I “can’t be this way forever, you need a backup plan!” and as for a backup plan… Well I have none, (no 9-5, no part time, no working for anyone else… Scary? Sometimes, Worth it? ALWAYS!, and it means that I have no choice but to work harder… That I must succeed!!!

This year I am expanding into a project that will help people find balance in their lives and makeover their ideas about being happy, being creative, and being successful.  Whether you are a creative professional, dealing with the anxiety of living with constant change and the instability that these industries can bring, or a creative soul trapped in the office world, the dreaded four walls, because it’s the “only way you can pay your bills”… I want to help. I want to share my experience, and hopefully it will shed some light on a better way, a way that defies their rules, a way to take back control and better your situation.

(For me) Life is about the journey, and evolving as human beings, not being enslaved by our possessions, limited by our status and resigned to our lifestyle habits… It’s about keeping a level head, about the world around you and choosing how to interact with it.  Who said you can’t be creative, expressive AND make enough money to have a comfortable life?  We idolize people, the rich and famous that do this everyday and say that they are “living the dream”.  Well It’s only ever going to be a ‘dream’ if you don’t do something about it…

If this rings any bells, sounds familiar and you want to find out more of how I created this amazing world for myself, Let’s have a chat… It may just be what you’re missing, and may help you find that happiness you are working towards.

Remember that being creative doesn’t have to mean writing a great song or painting a beautiful picture, architects create buildings, comedians create laughs, housewives can take a house create a home…Creativity is everywhere if you know how to look for it and almost always undervalued.

 

RoxySIGNoff