It’s Time To Take Action

HOW YOU BEGIN something always has a massive impact on how that thing pans out.
When starting a new project or business you’ll want to have the best possible chance you can get for it to succeed.. And our best chances often come with knowledge and support.

When I started my business I was gifted an awesome mentorship that allowed me to accelerate my learning and gave me daily access to some of the best in the online biz, to make sure I came into the space confidently and with all the tools that I needed to see results QUICKLY..

Hands down, I have never felt so supported in my life. It was a deep dive into
Inner work,
Business and Money Mindset,
Self Confidence and Self Worth,
Alignment and Manifestation
packaged so neatly with the tricks of the trade of how to make my business function Autonomously, with Ease and Flow and Maximise my earnings 💰💰💰

Our community is offering this mentorship again for anyone who wants to start their business in the coming weeks.
So I’m calling in all those of you
who need a change,
who feel stuck in a situation,
who feel undervalued in their jobs, who are tired of little return for long hours
and who want to LEVEL UP in all areas of life.

I WANT TO HELP YOU CREATE SOMETHING AMAZING 🙌🙌

And seriously, you DON’T want to miss this incredible opportunity.

We have creatives, mums, dads, influencers, lightworkers, coaches, couples, health professionals, freelancers, grandparents and young entrepreneurs coming into this space and KILLING IT!! Some people who only ever really knew how to post on fb proving that EVERYONE can be coachable and can create SUCCESS for themselves in this mad side hustle.

The ONE thing we all have in common is we kept an open mind and jumped in to learn and implement something new… And now the benefits of that are coming back fast. 🤸‍♀️

If you have been watching me, my transformation, this space, are loving what you are seeing, and curious to learn more, be sure to reach out and grab a spot in our next webinar by clicking below.

We are changing people’s lives one at a time, to expand our beautiful community.
And it’s YOUR TURN to step up and step in. ✨

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Take time to be present

We forget sometimes how important it is to upkeep our friendships and relationships with others.  Life can be overwhelmingly busy and we can often get too wrapped up in work, earning money, problem solving and passion projects.  It can be easy to forget friends and loved ones who are ‘low maintenance’ and ‘understanding of our busy schedules’.  But it shouldn’t be the norm.

Never having time for your friends and family is a no go.  Having extended periods of time without up-keep on these relationships makes for your being a very lonely person in the end.  And it doesn’t matter how ‘cool with it’ you think your friend or partner is.

At some point you are showing them where you have placed them in your life, on a ladder of priority.  If your family sits down the ladder at 100th or even  50th place on that priority scale, way behind work, stress, bills, mortgage, networking associates and leads, then how can you argue that you work so hard to provide for them and make them happy?

Happiness is not measured by the amount in your bank account or the amount of possessions and assets you own.  You can still be happy when you have nothing.  But when you have no-one, ‘Happy’ gets significantly more difficult.

Mostly, what your real family and friends desire to have is your attention, your company and your presence, both physical and emotional.  Sometimes we must stop thinking about ourselves being ATMs and Workhorses enough to understand the more important things in life.

It doesn’t take much time to send a text, email, message, to make a phone call even.  You may think that you have zero time. But you always have time because simply put, what could possibly be more important?  What is your life without them?  If you are really struggling to keep up with relationship maintenance schedule it. Schedule it like you do your lunch, or a meeting.  Put it in the calendar : 6-7pm cuddles with kids, 3-4pm returning social messages, 130-2pm phone call to mum 8-10pm No screen time (turn off phones, Ipads etc and spend time with the people around you).  Treat it like any other work task of the day, because it is just as important.

Balancing career, family, friends and personal development isn’t an easy thing to do.  But it’s not impossible if you believe in the importance of it.  Remember that if you dedicate all your time to success & riches, you might end up there…alone.  Just a little effort here and there will definitely go along way with you loved ones, and ensure they still feel loved 🙂

 

 

 

What would you rather be doing?

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It’s been a productive week.  My eldest son, Chance started school (pre-primary), I had 2 wisdom teeth pulled out, snuck in 2 mid-week gigs, 1 Skype singing lesson and recorded a new song idea.  And so with Chance being kept busy 5 days a week 830-3pm, I’ve been given a whole lot of time back.  I actually feel rich!

You see, we should see our time and energy as we see our money – even more precious, as time and energy spent can never be returned to you.  Yet, so many people are willing to give up their precious time doing things they don’t enjoy for very small amounts of money or return.

Today I ask, What are you doing with your time and energy? and What would you rather be doing?  If you find the two answers are far from each other then maybe it’s time to re-evaluate.

Believe it or not, not all people dread the idea of going to work.  And I’m not just making reference to people who have exciting jobs and get paid a shitload of money.  There are some people who love their job waiting tables, or driving a delivery van or doing someone’s taxes.  And outside of this, there are some people who just haven’t found their ‘Happy’ yet.

The world is full of different and unique personalities and there is no standard one way road to happiness.  And frankly, that’s because ‘happiness’ means something different to each and every one of us.  So no, you don’t need to be rich to be happy, but you do need to be happy to feel enriched.

To my friends who plod along in life on auto-pilot feeling unhappy, apathetic and without purpose: It’s time to take a moment.  Ask yourself what would you rather be doing.  And then do it.  Now… I don’t mean quit your job and start being a full time finger-painter because ‘I love finger-painting’ and then go broke and get homeless etc… Just take it in small steps.  That time that you are throwing at people like its worthless, I say, hold on to some of it.  Keep it for yourself.  Just a few hours a week doing what you love to heal your heart and feed your soul.  It will make such a difference in your life and could spark an idea for a project, and that project could later fit into a business model, and in taking little steps you might see value in dedicating more time to that ‘Happy’ and turn it into something that makes you money, directly or indirectly.  Your ‘Happy could end up being your full time job — you could live on it! Wouldn’t that be amazing??

Well it’s not impossible.  Some of us are just enslaved by our ideas about the ‘rules of life’.  And we resign to the fact that our life is just about waking up and going to work for 40 hours to make someone else rich, just so we can pay bills and ask for permission to go on a holiday for 2 weeks, once a year.  Shit! that sounds all sorts of crazy to me.

The Alternative?  Put  your happiness at the top of your priority list.  Because happiness attracts all kinds of success. And happiness brings good health.  Happiness fixes relationships.  Happiness attracts customers. And happiness finds the right squad for you to hang out with.

But all change is difficult and scary for most, and it requires time and energy. So when dividing up that time and energy across your commitments, please reserve some of that energy for your ‘Happy’.  If you think that you are too busy, then basically you’ve decided to settle for your current situation.

And if you don’t know where to start, who you are, what you like and what you should be doing, maybe I can help you.

Watch this space for upcoming events, info and blogs or get in contact at thealternativetoday@gmail.com  if you want to chat.

Finally I want to ask everyone to be thankful for the energy and time that others give to you, as I am thankful for the time you took to read this blog.  Your time is not unlimited. Use it wisely!

RoxySIGNoff

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Make the Move

I’m hearing the same dialogue all around me and I just wanted to address each statement separately.  I’m going to start by reminding everyone that we were not put on this earth to work hard to pay bills.  The majority of us spend 90% of our time doing stuff we don’t like or could give 2 f@#ks about.  But damn do we have time to complain… We have hours on hours to tell each other how unhappy or ridiculously busy or broke we are.  We have hours to take on and indulge in other peoples business and drama but when it comes to changing and bettering our situation its “I’m stuck, I’m unhappy, My relationship is failing, Myself business is a mess, I have no time for me, I hate my job, I don’t have a choice, It’s just the way it is.”  My responses are below:

“I’m stuck”

We are only held captive by our ideas and thoughts.  Change your thinking, change your situation.  There is always a different way to look at things you must be willing to be open minded.

“I’m unhappy”

People believe that happiness is a destination…. “I’ll be happy when this happens or when I get this or there”. Why can’t we aim to be happy along the way?  Be happy in the now and if you are not, start making small changes to everyday to inject doses of joy.  Happiness is a personal thing.  It is about giving to yourself time, moments, memories, freedoms and feelings. Because what if we never get to that destination happy? Are we doomed to spend a life of misery then die?  I’m sure it wasn’t intended that way.

“My relationship is failing”

Ask yourself why it’s failing?  There a few things that deteriorate a relationship: lack of support, lack of trust, lack of loyalty, lack of honesty, lack of communication, lack of consideration and acknowledgement.  Notice I did not mention love.  You can love someone to bits but it won’t solely hold a relationship together.  When you neglect your relationship – just like any other parts of your life…it starts to slip away.  A good place to start to fix things is to communicate with your partner and admit to the neglect,  and willingness to put energy into repair.  Happiness starts at home.

“My business is a mess”

No business starts out as a mess but plenty end there. Just like a relationship, it’s neglect that will make a business deteriorate.  Business owners fall into the trap of putting all their energy in the things that generate income right now and forget to maintain the things that will ensure the longevity of the business.  The organisation and planning and research aspect of a business should never cease.  Maintain a clean and organised back-end, and implement an accurate reporting tool so that you can make better decisions about the direction that your business is going.  Keep up to date with your market and be willing to be flexible so that you can evolve and adapt appropriately. Also, love what you do.

“I have no time for me”

You are the ruler of your time. You are the ruler of your time. You are the ruler of your time…  If you don’t have time for you then you are giving too much time out.  Usually its going out to your job, other people, and making money.  Just like you allocate time for your job, allocate time for you. Put it in your calendar like an appointment.  If your job or life doesn’t allow it, change your job or life — it’s NOT acceptable to have no time for yourself.

“I hate my job”

Leave.  If you hate your job you are probably a bad worker anyway.  Everyone has different strengths and weaknesses and skills and talents.  Find yours and find a job that uses them, and if you can’t find one, create one.

“I don’t have a choice”

You always have a choice.  The options may not be great but they are always there.  Choose and follow through.  Pick a side, don’t fence sit.  And back yourself – how do you expect others to if you don’t?

“Its just the way it is here”

This is the biggest cop out I ever hear.  Its you saying, I’m unwilling to change and I accept my unhappiness because I’m lazy or scared.  No one is ever “ready” to do anything.

MAKE A MOVE. EVEN A SMALL ONE….IN THE RIGHT DIRECTION…ACROSS THE GLOBE IF THATS WHERE YOUR HEART LEADS YOU.  Nothing changes whilst you stay in the same spot physically and mentally and emotionally, so try something new.

This year I moved my family (me, my husband, our to kids and my mother) to Mauritius.  It was a tough move, but I put the idea in my head that I could work from anywhere in the world.  And now I’m proving myself right.  Current situation:

 

If you need some advice and want to talk about how to change your situation, get in contact with me…

Have time? Make time!

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There are just not enough hours in a day — I have thought so many times.  What kind of happiness can we achieve if we try to squeeze in a little bit of what you love in between massive chunks of mundane and uninspiring stuff we do day to day?

So many people today live to work – and that’s okay if your work is exactly what you want to do.  But if you are just chasing money to survive and pay bills then somewhere along the line, you’ve lost your path. So I ask:

What is most important? Who is your priority? Where do you want to go? And how much time is spent on these things/people?

If most of your time and energy is not spent on your priorities, than those things/people aren’t really your priorities…

Always chase happiness… Always chase love… Always chase inner-peace and the rest will follow 🙂

 

What Consumes Your Mind, Controls Your Life

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Anxiety and worry often gets the better of us. We pile it up until there is no room for anything else in our minds and it overflows into our lifestyles, work, relationships and dreams. It often rushes us into bad decisions and allows negative energy to flow back to us. A vicious cycle that can be changed only with a break in the routine..

When we can turn this energy into creative expression we give ourselves an outlet and way to exchange our negative energy into something positive and can find our ‘happy’ again.

With help and support from friends, family and mentors, we overflow, cry, hug, pull it together, see the situation with clearer eyes, (and in my case) write a song…

Everyone has their days.. Don’t deny yourself the human right to be vulnerable, just understand the people who you can trust to be around you when your in that state..

What’s The Alternative?

 

 

 

I was born in one of the most musical families I’ve ever known.  My father is a singer, my mother a dancer, my grandfather a pioneer of Mauritian folk music, my cousins having great success as artists and songwriters, my partner, my uncles, my sisters and brothers, all talented singers, dancers, musicians and engineers.  My family is living proof that you carve out a successful career for yourself using art and yet I still was brought up with the idea that music and art is a hobby, a part time and not a real job, and that I should always have a backup plan.

Inconsistent with the reality of the successful and happy people I saw around me, I was told this at school, I was told this at work, I was told by the media, I was told even by some of the people that I was working with and considered as mentors. I’ve heard ‘It’s so hard to make riches from the arts, choose something else’ so many times growing up…But what if I was chasing happiness? What if the money just came as a bonus to being happy..  It’s taken great effort to accept myself as the creative being that I am, and to silence the little voice inside of me, that little, unnerving and confusing voice that says I “can’t be this way forever, you need a backup plan!” and as for a backup plan… Well I have none, (no 9-5, no part time, no working for anyone else… Scary? Sometimes, Worth it? ALWAYS!, and it means that I have no choice but to work harder… That I must succeed!!!

This year I am expanding into a project that will help people find balance in their lives and makeover their ideas about being happy, being creative, and being successful.  Whether you are a creative professional, dealing with the anxiety of living with constant change and the instability that these industries can bring, or a creative soul trapped in the office world, the dreaded four walls, because it’s the “only way you can pay your bills”… I want to help. I want to share my experience, and hopefully it will shed some light on a better way, a way that defies their rules, a way to take back control and better your situation.

(For me) Life is about the journey, and evolving as human beings, not being enslaved by our possessions, limited by our status and resigned to our lifestyle habits… It’s about keeping a level head, about the world around you and choosing how to interact with it.  Who said you can’t be creative, expressive AND make enough money to have a comfortable life?  We idolize people, the rich and famous that do this everyday and say that they are “living the dream”.  Well It’s only ever going to be a ‘dream’ if you don’t do something about it…

If this rings any bells, sounds familiar and you want to find out more of how I created this amazing world for myself, Let’s have a chat… It may just be what you’re missing, and may help you find that happiness you are working towards.

Remember that being creative doesn’t have to mean writing a great song or painting a beautiful picture, architects create buildings, comedians create laughs, housewives can take a house create a home…Creativity is everywhere if you know how to look for it and almost always undervalued.

 

RoxySIGNoff