Business beyond babies

HOW I GOT MY GROOVE BACK and started making $500+ commission per sale at home during nap time and between feeding times.

Choosing to be a mum shouldn’t end your career. But having kids and staying home to raise them can be overwhelming at first. But as the strong women we are, we adapt and change and find a way to manage the busy schedules, the sleepless nights, the nappies, the feeds, the school lunches, the tantrums and the demand for extra attention.

My kids are the best thing that ever happened to me. But they are not the ONLY good things that I have created. I love working, I love feeling financially independent, I love achieving goals, I love completing and closing projects and most of all I love talking…TO ADULTS.

When I had my first baby Chance (now 5), I cut back a lot of my hours to be the amazing mum everyone told me that I would be. I loved my baby in a way I have never felt before and I just wanted to be this super mum that I had seen my friends become over the years. But being a full time mum is hard. Not just physically, but it is taxing mentally and emotionally too. I remember someone saying to you that when you have a baby, that baby will become your entire life and you won’t want to do anything else but look after it…. I was like REALLY?? ANYTHING ELSE??

I worked in events, I performed and coached, I managed talent, I produced shows and I traveled the world….AND THEN I DIDN’T. I loved my job. I wanted to be a mum. But I loved my job, you know.. I didn’t want to choose between the two. The struggle was real. What I mean by the struggle was the guilt. At 3 months old, I left my baby to go on tour again, it wasn’t long, but I still felt like an “abandon-er”, failing to live up to the expectations of motherhood place on my by society.

You see, when we first become mums, we have this idea that everything comes naturally and effortlessly, because that is what we are told. And so when you struggle to do things like, settle, breast feed, or keep up with the general things that you would normally do in life (laundry, dishes, household admin, grooming) you sometimes just feel like a failure.

The one thing that made that feeling of under-achievement go away was going back to work. Going back and feeling like I WAS GOOD at something again. When I felt like a bad mum, I at least could be a damn good performer, producer and manager.

I overcame those new mummy blues after talking to enough mums to realise we pretty much all go through the same thing. But what I did not overcome was the need to be MORE that Just MUM.

And that is totally OK. Motherhood is rewarding and brings beautiful purpose in satisfaction in one’s life. And it is enough for some women. BUT IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE ALL THAT WE ARE. And it most certainly doesn’t have to be the only thing that DEFINES us. We can be a mum AND…..well, whatever the F you like.

The trick is setting yourself up to get what you need out of a career/business life and not burn out and die of exhaustion when you add that to the new responsibilities of being a parent. The trick is changing your work to be more EFFICIENT, more FLEXIBLE, more AUTOMATED, so that you can reap the SAME REWARDS for LESS TIME on deck, physically and mentally. We label this ‘Working SMARTER not HARDER’.

Fast-forwarding to the present. I have 2 very active boys. I still love being a mum. I still love working. But I saw the parts in my life that weren’t compatible with my work and I made changes.

I don’t work for anyone anymore. I have started my own business. This allows me to work on my own time. Night events turned into day conferences and meetings so that I’m not a zombie in the morning for school drop offs. There is always time for ME time and my and HUBBY time. I’m still performing, but I’m choosing my gigs wisely….And the BIGGEST shift is being able to leverage modern technology and the internet to do business so that I can work from anywhere, using a phone or a laptop.

WHAT DO I DO?
I COACH online on my phone, usually in my backyard.
I’m a digital marketer, I make commissions by REFERRING products and programs to the people who need them.
I HELP other mums (and people) like me start their own businesses and get their groove back.
I CREATE and INSPIRE others to go after what they are passionate about by setting an example and going first.
I CONNECT and SHARE ideas and energy with like-minded individuals in my beautiful community.

WHO AM I?

I’m Roxy, I’m a MUM AND an Entrepreneur, AND a Performer, AND a Boss AND an Independent and Empowered Woman.

So if you are sitting at home with your babies wanting a little MORE out of life and a little more for YOURSELF, Click below, register for a free webinar and let me HELP YOU get on the path to being a mum AND….✨

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Is it a SCAM??

More and more I see my feed filling up with programs promising to turn you into a millionaire and fast-track you to some glamorous life.  Every entrepreneur wanting you to buy their ‘secret to success’ or ‘millionaire hack’…

A few friends have even signed up and then realised they were being taken for a ride by a scam that was taking money off them and had lured them in with ‘shiny things’.

Most of us have had that experience though.  If you think that you are the only person who signed up for something, and then realised you wasted your money on some garbage, let me confidently reassure you that YOU ARE NOT.

So how do you know whether what you are getting yourself into is legit?

Here’s a few points to think about when deciding:

YOU CAN’T GET SOMETHING (GOOD) FOR NOTHING

You will have to invest TIME or MONEY or BOTH in order to get good results.  Expect to put some time and energy into your business for the most part, at least at the beginning anyway.

LOOK FOR A GUARANTEE

A company who believes in their own products and services will always offer and trial and/or money back guarantee.

Look at the people involved:

Who are they?

What kind of people are they?

Are they just like you?

Are they the kind of people you can be friends with in the real world?

Are they genuine?  

Do you feel aligned with their ideas?

Remember, most people walk away from a job/business because of issues with their coworkers not issues with the money so be aware of the community you are exposing yourself to when starting a new opportunity.

TRANSPARENCY

Is there an open discussion around what the opportunity is about?

Now we don’t need a company to reveal all the details of their strategies and give away secrets, but they should at least be forthcoming with where they stand and what they do in the business/online space, Whether that be

NW marketing

Digital marketing

Alternate currencies

Surveys or Education etc…

Before you spend your money, make the effort to at least understand what type of service or product you are investing in.

EDUCATE YOURSELF

If you want to know how to do something, find someone who has ALREADY done that thing and ask them to TEACH you or point you in the right direction to LEARN.

Like, if you want to be a better singer, find one of the best singers you know and ask them how they became skilled.  (I can help you with this by the way)

And if you want to be a millionaire, go and learn from millionaires. (I can also help you with this one).

NOTHING IS EVER DONE WELL WITHOUT EDUCATION.  But you also need to know WHERE to find the RIGHT education.  And most of the best education today, takes place OUTSIDE of School and Uni.

People are doing amazing things online and earning some incredible $$$, AND retaining their time freedom whilst doing it.

The difference between THEM and YOU is that they have put in the time to LEARN from the right people and IMPLEMENT at the right time.

Are you ready to educate yourself?

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Workaholic

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I’m a self-confessed workaholic.  I enjoy and love my job so much, like being busy, like meeting people, like the fast-paced industry, love being a boss…until I dont.  Being creative and sharing good energy can be exhausting (alongside, running a business, being a mum and wifey) and sometimes I forget that I need to stop for a bit. Stop talking, Stop singing, Stop thinking and sit the F@#K down. The soul needs time to refresh and breathe. We can’t hear what our body is telling us if we are constantly talking over it.  It doesn’t matter how much fun your work is. If you can’t walk away to do something else long enough to miss it, you will burn out quickly and lose passion…Balance is everything.

Work hard…for the right things

passion

Being in control of your own time, work schedule, creative direction and destiny doesn’t necessarily mean that you work less.  It means that you care a whole lot more about whether you are succeeding and that you find a lot more satisfaction in achieving those personal goals.  I love my job so much that I have to watch myself to not become a workaholic!!  Balance is key.  There must also be time for family, for play, for rest and for fun.

 

What’s The Alternative?

 

 

 

I was born in one of the most musical families I’ve ever known.  My father is a singer, my mother a dancer, my grandfather a pioneer of Mauritian folk music, my cousins having great success as artists and songwriters, my partner, my uncles, my sisters and brothers, all talented singers, dancers, musicians and engineers.  My family is living proof that you carve out a successful career for yourself using art and yet I still was brought up with the idea that music and art is a hobby, a part time and not a real job, and that I should always have a backup plan.

Inconsistent with the reality of the successful and happy people I saw around me, I was told this at school, I was told this at work, I was told by the media, I was told even by some of the people that I was working with and considered as mentors. I’ve heard ‘It’s so hard to make riches from the arts, choose something else’ so many times growing up…But what if I was chasing happiness? What if the money just came as a bonus to being happy..  It’s taken great effort to accept myself as the creative being that I am, and to silence the little voice inside of me, that little, unnerving and confusing voice that says I “can’t be this way forever, you need a backup plan!” and as for a backup plan… Well I have none, (no 9-5, no part time, no working for anyone else… Scary? Sometimes, Worth it? ALWAYS!, and it means that I have no choice but to work harder… That I must succeed!!!

This year I am expanding into a project that will help people find balance in their lives and makeover their ideas about being happy, being creative, and being successful.  Whether you are a creative professional, dealing with the anxiety of living with constant change and the instability that these industries can bring, or a creative soul trapped in the office world, the dreaded four walls, because it’s the “only way you can pay your bills”… I want to help. I want to share my experience, and hopefully it will shed some light on a better way, a way that defies their rules, a way to take back control and better your situation.

(For me) Life is about the journey, and evolving as human beings, not being enslaved by our possessions, limited by our status and resigned to our lifestyle habits… It’s about keeping a level head, about the world around you and choosing how to interact with it.  Who said you can’t be creative, expressive AND make enough money to have a comfortable life?  We idolize people, the rich and famous that do this everyday and say that they are “living the dream”.  Well It’s only ever going to be a ‘dream’ if you don’t do something about it…

If this rings any bells, sounds familiar and you want to find out more of how I created this amazing world for myself, Let’s have a chat… It may just be what you’re missing, and may help you find that happiness you are working towards.

Remember that being creative doesn’t have to mean writing a great song or painting a beautiful picture, architects create buildings, comedians create laughs, housewives can take a house create a home…Creativity is everywhere if you know how to look for it and almost always undervalued.

 

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